Good people don’t take vacations or hours of work, no one rewards them for what they do, or want this reward, they’re made of unusual materials, but that’s how they understand life and that’s how their hearts speak. to them.
However, being good is not naive. It’s having our own values to fight for and that defines us, but at a time when we feel vulnerable or selfishly used, there’s something inside that starts to break.
- It is actually something more complex than we think.
- When someone does things of their own free will it is their mind that guides them.
- It is spontaneity and their own integrity.
- But when others violate these principles to achieve a goal in seeking their own benefit.
- Rather than blaming those who manipulated them.
- They blame themselves.
- It’s the most common thing.
Do good people hear that they are naive, that they give a lot, that they don’t know how intuitively things, people?And all this, all these negative comments, are gradually undermining self-esteem in a dangerous way.
When we notice the invasion of others in our personal spaces, we usually create strategies to protect ourselves, we also hold others responsible for this offense, but in the case of good people this is not always the case.
We must be clear that we must all have a space of control, a personal limit after which it is obligatory to build our walls so as not to be vulnerable, and to be even more convinced, it is important to consider these simple aspects:
Good people have every right to say without being called selfish We know that those around them are more than used to always saying yes, to be available with a smile.
If anyone thinks otherwise, they’re wrong. There is no context more necessary to set clear boundaries than in emotional, family or friendly relationships, there is really no more loving and friendly way than to be able to say a ‘no’ with ease without fear that the other person will be offended or upset.
To love someone, be it your partner, a friend or even a family member, is to be able to act freely according to our principles, knowing that we will be respected at all times.
Before you can convince others, you have to convince yourself. You have to be able to say “enough” and say it aloud with conviction, without embarrassing yourself or feeling bad. Think that if day after day you give in to everything you’re asked, what ends up happening, in fact, is that your energy, your self-esteem, and in turn, will make you someone you’re not.
There will come a time when, when you really want to help someone, it will be impossible, you will have neither strength nor spirit, and worse, they will no longer believe you.
Creating limits around you is not like creating, overnight, a line of punishment for others, where you are isolated and protected, is the exact opposite?
All this will give you the certainty that you are acting with integrity to build authentic and positive relationships, in this way those who truly love you will understand you, because the right people, even if they want nothing in return, need reciprocity and respect. .
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