Even optimistic, energetic and sunny people know what depression is. People who enlighten others with their smiles, with their candor and joy of living, need to let go, cry, and heal their wounds; together the inner pieces and chasms, in this way they will continue to maintain their resilience, rationality, objectivity and strong optimism to face the challenges.
If we say, right now, that the opinion we generally have of optimistic people is a bit skewed, we will not be mistaken, we all know someone who has the ability to turn the difficult into something easy. give us encouragement, hope and support. Whether it’s for friends or family, they always have “a positive word. ” It seems that adversity or the complexity of life does not exist for them.
Optimistic people always have a plan, pessimists have excuses
We believe that optimistic people were born with a ‘star’ and that they have already come into the world with all these wonderful skills, however, the reality is very different and at the same time interesting, there are two types of optimism. The first, Martin Seligman, father of positive psychology, called him “blind optimism. “It is an approach in which the person believes that whatever happens, everything will go well, shaping behaviors with little personal responsibility, where only trust the good work of fate.
In turn, the opposite pole would be “rational optimism. “The person is aware that positivity alone does not lead to change. To be optimistic is first and foremost to have perspective, not to be discouraged by the failure or thoughts of defeat that comes with it.
In addition, it is important to know that optimism is a behavior/attitude that can be built, our brain has a natural tendency to turn our attention to possible external threats that could jeopardize our survival, so optimism must be trained and worked on a daily basis. Base. In this way, we will be able to strengthen our character, learn from the difficulties and know how to manage our emotions in the difficult moments that we will all have to face sooner or later.
Optimistic people are not necessarily naive, it is true that many of them practice this empty positivity, in which they simply breathe deep and confident, being spectators of what is happening in their lives, however, many other people use this positivity to say this because it is very common to have a misconception of what optimism is and how it works : in the second case, we are faced with an important psychological dimension that deserves to be learned.
The American Psychological Association conducted a survey a few years ago to assess the impact of the current social and economic crisis on the general population, this evaluation obtained interesting and useful data, the group being most affected by that of women. Are those with the most psychological symptoms such as: stress, anxiety, headaches, fatigue, eating disorders?
In a world in crisis, wage inequality and employment opportunities are primarily women’s responsibility, so this problem needs to be addressed in a number of ways.
The American Psychology Association? I wanted to know, on the other hand, what strategies these women were using to face such a complex moment, to gradually reach a position of relevance or power.
When these women explained all the daily coping mechanisms they used, psychologists identified this set of dynamics as “resilient optimism. “It was no longer the rational optimism Seligman was talking about in his day. In fact, we should take a step forward now. We are at a time when it is necessary to integrate new psychological strategies in order to get afloat in these difficult times, below we will mention some of these strategies:
In analyzing all this data we come to several conclusions, the first is that all these friends or family that we consider optimistic by nature have not always been so, perhaps they have learned to be optimistic and to fight every day to stay that way. this perspective, this vital approach that we admire so much.
On the other hand, we must understand that the most logical, stronger and more rational optimism also has its moments of weakness, in fact, many people who have recovered from depression think that they are very strong, thinking that optimism has covered them. with a layer of invulnerability, in the manner of a true superhero: able to overcome all needs and fulfill all obligations. When in fact, even the bravest has his weak point, his kryptonite.
So let’s try to get a more useful view of positivism. Understanding that the optimist has no resentments or resentments, does not ignore the challenges of the present, and accepts that adversity exists and must be addressed. Optimistic people surround themselves with good friends, they know, how to thank and forgive, and above all, they chose optimism as a flag and living like this, because although there are personality traits that promote optimism, being optimistic has more to do with reflection and practice.
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