There are unpleasant emotions, such as anger and anger, that hide revealing messages, these emotions tell us something very deep about us: our fears that we are unable to recognize and accept.
Why don’t we want to recognize our fears? The pitfalls of our thoughts make us feel, again and again, anger, boredom and discomfort. We ended up at the mercy of our reasoning, when we still had a conscious and superficial analysis of our fears.
- We live under social pressure where fears are seen as vulnerability.
- Which weakens us.
- We have this belief that makes us bury fears in our subconscious and thus reveal themselves under the appearance of anger at situations beyond our control.
- Which are part of our deepest fears.
We’re more used to seeing people get angry than people who can recognize their fears. We persist in anger, manifesting it until it is part of us (producing psychosomatic responses) or externalizing it. In the second case, we project our anger upon others based on the belief that it was someone else or a situation that made us feel this great anger turned into anger.
Controlling anger is also not easy, although we are more familiar with it than with fear, it is at a more superficial level, so other problems are hidden there, those that we do not understand or that we are not prepared to face.
He has certainly met people who are always angry, who seem to have anger as part of his personality; however, behind this attitude, there are many hidden reasons. Anger would be just the tip of the iceberg, which we can see.
When anger appears in our lives and we do not understand its causes, we begin to speculate about what happened, to intellectualize emotion, and not to allow ourselves to feel anger and pain.
We do not understand certain inconveniences, we often consider them disproportionate, unjustified and meaningless, we dare to judge how we feel so as not to feel anything, we devalue our emotions and keep them in our inner attic. appear for an even deeper reason, and we override any possibility of understanding and addressing that reason.
Our usual tendency is to separate the mind from emotions, letting the mind calm what we feel, thus forgetting our body and our feelings.
We have a very broad repertoire of fears, nurtured since our childhood, reinforced by society and amplified by our disrecognise of ourselves, there is no doubt that those responsible and responsible for dealing with these fears are ourselves.
When we are able to take responsibility for our fears, we are also able not to judge what we feel and what we experience. It is at this point that we no longer need to blame, manipulate and lie.
Here are some particularly useful examples when anger is recurring: a tantrum because someone did not arrive may indicate fear of abandonment; a tantrum for something someone told us we don’t like can indicate fear of lack of recognition or fear that the person won’t. we don’t like it.
Fears are rooted in recurring anger, anger seems to cover more and more situations, and we feel angry because others are the cause, this prevents us from exploring and caring for our fears, depriving us of the opportunity to understand and heal them.