Surely you have heard or even talked about an inner child that we care about, we also know that we have to give it life to make them happy, however, we do not usually spend much time on this child, even if he is hurt. An injury that still affects us sometimes?
What happened to the child who got hurt?What marked you forever? And above all, is it possible to heal the wounds and heal them permanently?
- What happens when that inner child suffers or is injured at some point in childhood and affects our actions as men and women?There are many theories that try to explain this situation.
- One of which is what has been called a “catalyst event”.
The event, Catalyst, is it a fact that has marked us with fire and iron, as they say, and that has forged our personality. Basically, this is so: since we were born we have lived in what is called “comfortable continuity”. , which allows our survival and gives us everything we need (food, care, shelter, etc. ) However, one day something changes us forever and takes us out of this ‘comfortable continuity’.
In most cases, this event is associated with a very painful emotion such as death, fear, separation, misfortune, etc. but also to something external that may seem insignificant at first glance such as word, attitude or decision.
A distant father, a perfectionist mother, an authoritarian grandfather, a broken family, the inner child can be injured by what marked his childhood, carries the traumas of the past and transforms them into patterns or habits that mark adult life.
To be emotionally healthy it is necessary to help our inner child heal his wounds, yes, each of them and with total dedication and responsibility, it is not about applying a dressing where surgery is needed, nor minimizing a recurring symptom.
For beginners?Treatment? It is important that we are aware that we are dealing with a wounded child and that we need to create a friendship so that he can trust us. One film that comes to mind to illustrate the situation is “Jack,” starring Robin Williams, who puts heses as a child who ages four times faster than normal.
At one point in the film, Jack hides in one of the school park toys, his teacher (played by Jennifer Lopez) tries to get him out of there, to make it take some candy, but only the red ones. what are your favorites. That way, he? As a child he begins to trust her, to the point of leaving his hiding place and giving him the opportunity to take care of what makes him sick.
Something similar we have to do with our wounded inner child, so that he trusts the adult we have become, we have to give him what he needs, never scream, anger or threaten?Because that way we’ll achieve nothing but aggravate the wound.
If, for example, the injury was caused because your parents didn’t take care of you, treat your inner child with all the love in the world, if it’s because they ignored you, prove you’re more important, give it time and prioritize it. Gradually, the child will come out of hiding and trust you – don’t miss this opportunity!
Speak patiently, tell him that you repent of his suffering and above all that you want to help him, ask him how he is, how he can make you happy and if he is willing to make the effort for both of them to achieve their goal. . Offer different activities such as walking, going to the beach or watching a movie.
Try to integrate your life again, so that you have the opportunity to enjoy everything you’ve built despite all the difficulties you’ve been through, it’s about giving your opinion, voting your decisions and, above all, letting you have fun. And you with her.