Life is a path. It was seen as such, as a metaphor, both in literature and psychology, and we all know that this is not exactly a straight and easy path: there are climbs, descents, detours and many obstacles to overcome, yet we must continue to move forward.
The problem arises when we stray, not to deviate, but to enter a dead end. This happens without us being able to perceive ourselves; we think it’s a shortcut, a way to continue our journey and, unexpectedly, we find ourselves at a wall.
Success in life is not measured by what it has achieved, but by the obstacles it has overcome.
We are often almost at the end of the street, looking at a wall, not understanding why there is no way out, or waiting as if by magic to open a door, we suffer because we cannot continue walking, but we do not. We go back and keep looking at the wall, sad and desperate.
Let’s leave the metaphor and go back to our daily lives. There are situations and people who do not take us anywhere, that leave us at this deadlock, friendships or romances that do us no good or that do not have a future, but that always worry us desperately, projects or jobs that afflict us, that almost give us nothing in return, but we do not resign.
When you are in a situation that hurts you and causes you unhappiness, you have to stop and think: am I overcoming an obstacle or am I paralyzed in a dead end ?, if your answer is the first option, you must keep fighting. it is the last thing, it is essential to recognize that closing the doors and releasing everything that prevents us from continuing our path would be the right action to take.
Going back to the metaphor, try to take a deep breath to turn around and break the cul-de-sac. Without looking at the wall you left behind. Return to the main road, with its steep slopes, curves and rocks along the way, but also with all your progress and with all your opportunities and opportunities for the future.
In life it is necessary to get away from situations or people that paralyze us and are not good for us, we believe that letting them go hurts and that we will not be able to make that change, mentally we look at everything that we can. we will go wrong if we do.
But nothing we imagine is true; what hurts is staying and feeling the fear of changing things, the anguish of the unknown, basically the wall that prevents us from moving forward is familiar and familiar, and what scares us is having to deal with other things. Brave, let’s call things by name. Look at all the things that represent the walls in your life.
Our wall can be a partner or an ex-partner. It can be a friendship, a father, a colleague, it can be a job that we cannot give up, or studies that we think are appropriate, even if they do not correspond to our true vocation, it can even be a love that I hate, but that we try to do with someone.
Hitting the front walls doesn’t make us stronger, it gives us anxiety, frustration, sadness and moodiness. And what’s worse: despair and conformism, apart from the idea that there’s nothing I can do. I’ll never get out of this situation.
We’re going to transform and get away from the wall, blameless for leaving toxic people behind, jobs they don’t pay for, and all the things we hate to do, without fear of the unknown and what’s to come. on our way and move towards what we want to achieve and for whom we want to be. We can certainly expect an exciting journey for a lifetime.