At different times in life, we face situations in which we have to change, decisions to be made, that require anxiety, because we do not know what the outcome will be Change of school, house, city, country, employment, social position, marital status, roles, attitudes, behaviors, habits (?) In short, there are several transformations.
There are people who are going through many changes in their life and who are no longer afraid or afraid of having to change again, there are those who have not undergone much change, having some resistance every time they need to make one. Plenty of time to get used to it, having found strangeness in the light of the news.
- There are natural changes that come with time.
- As age matures.
- Many of us have different priorities.
- Different roles.
- Leaving the parents’ house is a big transformation in life.
- We realize that nothing is free.
- That nothing is ready.
- Especially if the parents do not have many financial conditions to help.
- Whether living alone.
- With friends/friends or with a partner.
- Husband/wife.
- Will be very different from when living with their parents.
- There will be responsibilities that have never existed before.
- We realize that dirty dishes are not cleaned alone.
- The light is cut off if we do not pay.
- The refrigerator is emptied if we do not go to the market to buy.
- In short.
- We learn that everything has a cost.
- This life can be more difficult than it seems.
Another big change, which for many begins when they leave their parents’ house, and for others after many transitions, is marriage, at which point two different people decide to share their space, their life, their future, their history. occasion where, if both are unwilling to experience real change, it will not work, and they will experience vicissitude: separation, the end of a couple, a change that can be terrible for many, for some it may bring some relief, but comes a burden of anguish, disappointment, a feeling of failure too, for some people it is very difficult, they feel lost, unfounded , looking for justifications, blaming and torturing themselves, but with time and help, even professional, they realize that the world is not over, that they can start over and face new challenges.
You can’t stop talking about a great transformation: being a mother and being a father, from one moment to another we go from son/daughter to father/mother status, everything changes, from that moment on, life. it’s not as it always has been, you have to think for someone else and dedicate yourself completely to that person, it’s a moment of discovery, many people realize that they have a strength, a much greater capacity than they thought, others can’t cope, they need a lot of help, but everyone grows up, as people, as citizens, learn from these little beings , if they develop, evolve.
And do the changes continue, with every achievement, with every difficulty, with every smile, with every tear?Sometimes it’s difficult, sometimes it hurts, sometimes we wonder if it couldn’t be different, but the options are like that, we give up something, good or bad, that can offer something better, bring in development staff and help us grow in all areas. life.
It is important to take responsibility for our choices, never blame people or situations for something that has not worked, but to be the authors of our history, trusting that if something still does not work, when we are ready, it will work, or we will transform to the point of not needing this old desire to work.
Fear always comes at the time of change, whether it sounds good or not, but we must not let it stop us, we cannot sabotage, we can never give up, always have more courage than fear, have self-ception, trust in ourselves, know that we can win whatever is necessary. Like the caterpillar, we must not cut the steps, but accept the metamorphosis, leave the comfort zone, glimpse and open new horizons, aware that with each fall it is necessary and possible to start over, believe it!