Each end of a relationship is usually accompanied by pain, to a greater or lesser degree, of one or both, ending a relationship in which you have put your expectations and dreams is not pleasant for anyone, well, once the convenient stage of mourning arrives But it does not end there. When you find out your ex already has a busy heart, everything can collapse again.
If this happens shortly after the end of the relationship, it tends to be even more annoying, our minds are covered in thoughts of all kinds, such as the possibility that we have been betrayed or the sadness of considering that, perhaps, they did not love. us as much as we thought we had seen in their actions.
- After this rain of negative reasoning comes an inner feeling of fear that our ex has found someone.
- But we have not yet done so.
- Suddenly we feel old and desperate to be alone.
- He did.
- But we are not yet ready to start a new relationship.
- Which may even be the case.
- But we have decided not to do so so as not to close the door to possible reconciliation.
We talk about the possibility of feeling bad when we discover that our ex already has a new partner, when we don’t yet have one, however, what if we also have a new partner?Why are we jealous, all the result of the discovery that this person’s heart is occupied again?
While you may want to think you’ve got over it, sometimes it doesn’t work that way. We lie to ourselves, we meddle in new relationships when we actually stay with our ex-partner. We are not talking about love, but about an inertia that leads us to believe that the other person still belongs to us.
In the society in which we live, relationships continue to have a certain sense of ownership. We believe our partner is our property. That is, we do not see it as a person, but as a territory that we must defend so as not to lose it and so that no one steals it from us.
This highly distorted design rekindles this sense of association when it’s all over. There is no love, there is no more of that. However, we become blind people driven by the false belief that our ex cannot be with anyone else. This fact bothers us. , It makes us mad. It’s ours, only ours. The person you are with now is a usurper.
Not really. Your ex doesn’t hurt you an other way, you do it yourself. Do you feel hurt because you weren’t chosen, because you’re starting to compare yourself to the person who’s with him now?You notice your insecurity mixed with anger and pain. A tangle of emotions that confuse him. We have to get this over with.
Remember that love is not what we have been taught, you may still be in love with your ex, but think that when you really love someone, all you want is your happiness, even if it is not with you. difficult, but it is also an opportunity to learn and gain confidence.
Your ex was a very important part of your life, but now he has to go your way with the same fear that you have to go through yours. It’s no longer stuck in an already oversteer relationship. It’s time to look to the future, are you ready to do it again?