Parental alienation syndrome (SAP) is characterized mainly by the insane idea that a child is rejected by one parent, but the detail of this situation is that this feeling of love does not occur in a “natural” way, but something “programmed” by the other parent with which the child lives or spends most of his time.
Basically, in this disorder, children are used without consideration, ignoring the permanent psychological damage caused by the alienating parent, how many of us wonder: is it possible for a parent to use a child indiscriminately for the sole purpose of revenge or pointing at the other parent?
- This situation usually develops in situations of separation or divorce.
- In which.
- Obviously.
- The physical and moral custody of the children is at stake.
- So that the parent who is most often responsible for the (alienating) child awakens feelings in the child hatred.
- Rejection.
- And humiliation by the other parent (alienated).
The alien acts as a victim in front of their children, a role in which he blames the other parent for the separation, making the children feel treacherous when they relate to the rejected father. In this pathology, the alien performs what is considered brainwashing in his son, who comes to lie or make false statements against the alienated father so as not to lose the affection of the parent with which he lives.
In parental alienation syndrome, the alien is aware of the actions he performs and the effects these actions have on the spouse, however, this does not take into account that using his child to harm the other parent leaves irreparable scars on the child’s well-being. Therefore, the child may have serious behavioral disorders because his or her own ability to rationalize has been manipulated.
Let’s see how some harm manifests itself in the children who are living in this situation:
? Change in emotional stability: this is one of the main consequences of AMP, characterized by a feeling of anxiety and stress that some children feel when they come into contact with the crazy father (the one from whom they have gone emotionally).
? Disorder of everyday habits, such as eating and sleeping: the child feels confused and unable to cope, this mood, in turn, does not allow him to sleep or eat properly.
? Behavioral disorders: they result in greater aggressiveness of their own actions towards others, they do so to draw attention and express emotions that they cannot express freely.
The professionals in the field recommend that the child stay in touch with the crazy parent, this will ensure that the relationship between father and son is not completely extinguished, so it is recommended not to rebuke or criticize the behavior of the child, as this would only increase the AMP.
Of course, the final solution to parental alienation syndrome depends mainly on a change in the mindset of the alienating parent, a change that will help the minor and the mad father return to a stable relationship that has been denied by the negative attitude of the parents. This change is usually not easy, so psychological assistance may be necessary for the alienating parent and, better yet, for all affected family members, adults, and children.
Manipulating a child is never acceptable under any circumstances, but especially when the child’s emotional and psychological stability is at stake. The end simply does not justify the means.