Parents have a very important task: helping their children, this is something we probably don’t think about when it comes to commissioning them, we have no idea how much work we have to do.
Isn’t it just taking care of them, feeding them, satisfying them? As parents we must always be prepared to support them, to make them little ones who know how to handle a world as harsh as the one we live in today. A world that will present you with difficulties, a world that collapses as you struggle to ascend.
- “Children learn little from words.
- Only attitudes and their coherence with words are valid.
- ? -Joan Manuel Serrat-.
However, although it is difficult to recognize, during education we do a multitude of things that are not correct, even if we have the best intentions. Let’s go get them!
Our main mission, as parents, is to be available to our children unconditionally, with a love that surpasses absolutely everything.
Put yourself in your child’s shoes, because at some point you’ve taken off your shoes, how was your childhood?Did you have good parents? Don’t make the same mistakes that caused you some kind of deficiency, it’s time for you to know what your goal is as a parent:
“What children receive is what they will give to society. -Karl A. Menninger-
Now that you know what your goal is as a parent, it’s time to put into practice everything you’ve learned, but is there anything even more important you need to know, something we constantly fail to do?
It’s very hard to see that as parents, so let’s put it in perspective when we were kids, remember how many punishments you received?
During our childhood, we were constantly punished and scolded, often in response to our childish behavior, but weren’t we just children?So when could we behave like one, when were we bigger?
Always, from a young age, they give us the idea of being older. We weren’t allowed to enjoy the time of being kids!You always have to be nice, learn to be great, but?Is this the best way?
We believe that with these guidelines we are doing good, when in fact it is evil, rather than motivating, discouraging, making our children feel bad, wrong with themselves and not knowing how to behave properly.
A child is the greatest responsibility a person can assume
They’re kids, they’re kids! They learn, and in fact, we continue to learn, at 20, 30, 40, etc. What can we expect from them?
Give them permission to live, to behave like children, give them permission to make mistakes because you also make mistakes and make mistakes, but the most important thing is to stop focusing on everything you’re doing wrong and start focusing on what you’re doing right.
For example, instead of pointing out that they didn’t pick up their materials correctly or didn’t paint the table, just ask them to use a tablecloth or other item to protect the furniture next time.
They don’t know what might happen and, even if you explain, they probably forget it. Don’t focus on the negative, redirect them to positive teaching.
“The task of a father is to motivate, to encourage his children to discover their own path, because when they discover it, will they not deviate from it? -Bernardo Stamateas-
What mistakes have you made with your children? The most important thing to keep in mind is that you should always be there for him, as well as promote positivism and never fall back into the negative. Are you ready to be good parents?