Although, fortunately, this number is declining, there are still parents who subject their children to corporal punishment to obey them, which has led to the death of children at the hands of their parents who, under the influence of anger, discharge their physical strength. person or people who would have a responsibility to protect: their children.
It is a pity that there are still people who generally advise:
- In different countries there are laws for the protection of children and adolescents.
- Although this is a difficult case to eradicate.
- Silence acts as an accomplice.
- Because in many places it is thought that the way of educating belongs exclusively to parents.
- Regardless of the situation.
- On the one hand.
- Some people mistakenly believe that abuse is just corporal punishment.
- Abuse is also referred to when children are neglected to respond to food.
- Rest.
- Leisure.
- Affection.
- Safety.
- Psychological support or care in times of illness.
In addition, emotional rejection is also abused in the form of screams, insults, threats and humiliations. Not allowing friendship with other children is social isolation and prevents the free development of social skills.
Some parents do not allow their children to return home the next day of school because they cannot tolerate responsibility for preparing food, giving clothes, and cleaning the home, in this context it is common to find alcoholic parents or drug addicts.
As mentioned, abuse is not obvious in many situations, often this behavior is so subtle that it can occur, for example, with comparison between siblings or with other children, often this comparison impedes the sense of belonging to the family group. develops, generates mistrust, leads to schism or increases the will to escape reality.
Teachers can play an important role in observing and identifying changes in their students’ behavior, often disruptive or aggressive behavior toward the child is the product of adult abuse, among the guidelines for identifying this situation are:
Fear of one of your parents
Fear of water, going out into the yard. Any abnormal behavior that persists over time is a cause for alarm.
Insomnia, appearance of childhood behaviors already overcome, such as enuresis, nightmares, loss of appetite, isolation, solitary or aggressive play.
“Unknown” cause marks appear on the body. Scars on the lobe of the ear.
It’s unfortunate when you hear it from the mother’s mouth
“Did you just give me trouble!?
“Don’t you bring anything but disgust!?
“Won’t they even want you as a gift!?
There are probably no physical consequences on children, but the psychological aftermath of abuse can persist: the child will probably have low self-esteem, live in fear, perceive the world as a hostile place, have great difficulties in trusting people and, strangely, can abuse their own children.
Every child has the right to a life free from violence, growing up in an environment that provides safety, it is true that children need driving limits to live in society, but abuse to impose such limits is not justified Hidden consequences can be revealed later.
Many abused children yesterday are the ones who mistreated today. However, others oversteered their traumatic pain and channeled their energy to protect their abused children. We have to consider that most parents who abuse or hit don’t want to do this and often describe how bad they feel after doing so. So when they attack they also attack themselves, and if they do, it’s because they don’t know other ways to act and don’t think they exist. .
Abusers tend to use violence to impose respect because of their limited ability to put limits on children’s behavior. This adult forgets he’s dealing with a child. He expects the child to think and act like a twenty-something adult, but is unable to put themselves in the child’s place, who does not understand the reason for the beatings. Excessive demands cause frustration, as children often cannot meet adult expectations: expectations that are not met generate disappointment, poorly channeled by abuse.
On the other hand, some alcoholics, drug addicts or gambling addicts see their children as a heavy burden for their continued addiction, in such cases, abuse often takes the form of neglect to needs, as parents allocate their resources, which must be to meet the needs of children, to continue living their own addiction.
Finally, we must reflect and be aware that while parent education must play a leading role, society has a responsibility to ensure that education is always included within the framework of the rights of the child.