Statistics show that many people practice passive communication, we can even practice it ourselves, even if we have never defined it that way.
We are talking about a style of communication that is very harmful to us and those around us, this negatively affects our self-esteem and prevents us from communicating healthily and appropriately with others.
- According to the article “Empathy.
- Assertive communication and respect for the rules”.
- Passive communication characterizes those who do not defend their rights.
- Maintain a distant stance and submit to the demands of others.
- Ignoring their own needs.
Some studies indicate that passive communication may be motivated by the need to please others, that is true, but there are other reasons, such as lack of social skills or fear of conflict.
People who practice this type of communication can also do so because they have been subjected to constant censorship in their education, so even if the censor or the censor’s power is gone, your brand is still there, these people, not knowing how to express their opinions or needs, don’t feel safe.
On the other hand, if they have received very strong criticism, they can continue to be subjected to the tyranny of their echo, so they remain trapped in an insecurity that formed many years ago.
In those moments, you may feel a sense of helplessness. “Why don’t the words come out and I doubt?” Why does it seem that our minds are paralyzed and prevent us from thinking fluently?”The reason is that there is a disproportionate fear of confrontation, of criticism, of judgment.
“The psychic task that a person can and should establish for himself is not to feel safe, but to be able to tolerate insecurity. “- Erich Fromm-
Perhaps everything we have said so far is very familiar to us, however, we will see some clear examples of what passive communication is and how it manifests itself in everyday life.
In this sense, imagine that we want to pursue a particular career because we love it, but our parents say “no”. In this way, we also feel bad about not sharing your wishes. So we ended up changing our minds.
Nothing else matters because we have already abandoned ourselves to your original desire and feel the need to please you, after all, we were given many opportunities.
This can happen in different circumstances, such as wanting to go to another country to study the language, go to a birthday or sleep with friends, if we have been manipulated and do not know how to defend our rights, in adulthood we will act with a style of passive communication with others.
“We must never stop being ourselves to be accepted” – Merco Conangla and Jaume Soler-
In this scenario, there is a total lack of self-esteem, it is so damaged and mistreated that we do not see that we can have more decision-making capacity than we think and more rights than we claim.
If we identify this circumstance and do not know how to make this change, the next step is to seek professional help, this will give us the tools we need to get out of passive communication and start asserting ourselves, it will not happen overnight, but we will see advances that will encourage us to move forward.