Pathological envy consumes anyone and destroys all fertile soil. Kill what’s alive and move quickly like a tsunami. Drag everything. Envy is destructive to you and others. A feeling that bites existence, especially at its greatest intensity.
Maybe at some point in our lives we’ve been jealous of someone, whether it’s because of your physical qualities, your accomplishments, or your luck, no one completely ignores this feeling.
- Now.
- There is a kind of desire described as healthy that does not produce that bitter taste.
- Its presence is something like a pat on the back that when you feel it indicates what we have lost or would like to change and leaves us with a taste.
- Of sadness and nostalgia.
- Healthy envy is not as bitter or destructive as pathological envy.
“Envy is a declaration of inferiority”. -Napoleon-
Envy, whether healthy or pathological, tells us something we lack, or at least we think we don’t have, which can indicate the presence of a feeling of inferiority that prevents us from having healthy relationships with others, or perhaps reminds us of The Dream that got stuck in the trunk of our lives. Anyway, he always has something to tell us, so it’s so important to hear it.
We will achieve nothing by hiding it or denying it, the impulse is there and he wants to warn us of something, otherwise we would not feel it as a thorn stuck in our chest when we learn the luck and happiness of others. I wouldn’t mind.
So when we feel envious, it seems that something moves in us, so it is important to listen to it, translate what you want to tell us, accept it and act, yes, the letter is in our hands, not in the hands of others. The last person who can decide what to do with this unfulerated dream is us. Let’s not forget it.
It is true that we do not always have the resources to achieve our dreams, but perhaps we can adapt them to our possibilities and work constantly to achieve them, so sometimes it is normal to feel that little push when we see that someone has achieved what we have not yet achieved.
The problem is when this desire becomes the centerpiece of our interactions with others, when we dominate our relationships and begin to constantly compare ourselves to each other, so all we can do is decentralize our own existence, putting our critical gaze on the outside. A look focused on finding each other’s flaws, weaknesses or weaknesses. A punitive attitude that does not forgive the happiness of others.
Thus, the other person ends up becoming someone to hate. A labyrinth of discomfort appears that revolves around the feeling of pathological envy and has the power to blind us when it comes to finding a solution to what happened.
Faced with the trap of envy and the effect of the negativity it generates, it is vital to transform this energy (destined to criticize and seek the “faults” of others) into positive to seek what makes us really happy. Then, any effort focused on following the outside should be directed inwards.
Only we can be our only measure. It is important to assume that the comparison is totally unnecessary, every human being is unique and has his own strengths and weaknesses, why compare us to others?Aren’t we the same person, don’t we live the same things, or do we see the world the same way?
Every person is built in a different way, will there be better or worse people than us in a given discipline and vice versa?This is something we have to take on if we don’t want to get into the deadly game of comparisons.
One can be a mathematical disaster and the other can be extremely simple, but the latter may not be as creative as the first, which is an explosion of art and creativity. Each person shines with his own light.
As we see, it is only by living in our own reality that we can focus on who we want to be and how we want to do it, so the best ally to succeed is not the feeling of envy, but acceptance. Support is able to push us where we want and sometimes makes it much easier.