You have probably already been surprised and disappointed several times by people’s behavior.
This usually scores a before and after for us, because we feel let down and it’s hard to accept disappointment.
- When this happens.
- It is difficult to explain the reasons that affect us so much.
- The problem is that we feel we have been deceived; it seems that the person tried to hide his true intentions with words.
The truth is that most people are very incoherent because they promise things they can’t or won’t do, they may not even realize that they are acting that way and repeat things over and over again to think about whether that’s what they want. I really feel.
Anyway, the fish dies through the mouth, understand it in the sense that we can say whatever we want, but you have to take into account if that’s what we really feel and whether we’ll be able to do it.
Fortunately, we do not define ourselves by what we say, because otherwise we would live in a world too perfect to be true, that is, perfect and false.
We want to emphasize that it is justifiable and even desirable that we make mistakes, which contribute to the maturation of our relationships. In other words, uncertainty doesn’t always mean chaos.
The world would be very boring if we were all perfect, but we have to find a balance. Try to be as honest and consistent as possible and make sure you don’t hurt people.
What did you learn after all this pain and betrayal?Then I said, “I’ve always learned to smile. “
Sometimes we form a negative image of people that does not always correspond to reality, people are neither white nor black, they can be colored, depending on the situation.
Many times, we rigorously judge someone else’s behavior and forget to stop and analyze ourselves. We made the mistake of imagining that our faults are lighter and ephemeral.
Don’t create expectations or expect anything from others, people are the way they are, they don’t act the way we’d like.
It is not easy to be consistent when you get carried away by emotions, it is an opportunity that is always present and threatens us at all times.
Let us not deceive ourselves, we have to manage our emotions in such a way that they do not judge us as “bags”. In the worst case, we may lose control.
It does not define what we say and perhaps not even the way we behave, we need to analyze each situation globally and not quickly disappoint with others and ourselves.
You don’t have to feel guilty or over-punish yourself. Avoid telling stories and building castles in the air. Don’t confuse: making mistakes is different than cheating.
Getting rid of expectations is the best way to protect yourself and cure bad experiences.
Not everyone is good, not everyone is perfect: our reaction is influenced by our beliefs and values.