You don’t really know how it’s going, but one day, in a very simple and common situation, you end up opening your eyes, maybe you’ve been with someone for five months or five years, but all of a sudden you realize what they really are with all your cruelty.
It is where many of his dreams are shattered, where illusions and hopes escape, because you lived with the mask of fascination or blind love that prevented you from enjoying the true truth.
- No one can get to know people in depth quickly.
- It takes time.
- Complicity and key moments that open our eyes.
- Until this happens.
- We tend to idealize them or assign extraordinary dimensions to them; but little by little.
- Do the candles fall?.
Of course, people can sometimes really change, do circumstances, experiences change us?However, we all have an unmistakable essence, a type of personality, integrity and values that tend to be constant over time.
It is in our hands to know how to perceive in time, to know how to read gestures, to know intuitively with words, to know how to deduce attitudes.
Sometimes love is a complicated filter when it comes to being objective, but we have to keep our hearts open and our feet on the ground, linked to the roots of balance and self-protection.
At first, we all strive to be similar to others, many people, for example, try to adapt their particular edges and gaps to those of their partner so that everything has the most perfect harmony.
However, many of these unions seem to disguise or hide their own needs. Or worse, showing virtues that are not real. For our part, we see the companion as “complete”, almost idyllic, without noticing any masks.
Sooner or later the first disappointment appears, we do not know how or understand how the other person could do or say such a thing, but it has happened and there is nothing we can do to change it.
Gradually these revealing situations arise in which people are tested, that is where their true essence, their true personality, appears.
What happened? How can they be so different than they were at the beginning of the relationship? We must accept: people do not change overnight, in fact, there are people who are not as we thought at first.
And this finding is usually bleak
How can we accept that the person we care about is not as we originally thought, believe it or not, this type of situation is a very common reality in everyday life, and in fact it doesn’t just happen between couples. between friends and even among many family ties.
People don’t change overnight or over time; in fact, it is time itself that allows us to see the truth.
There is no magic formula that allows us to see what people really are like, in fact, many times or themselves do not know it, it is necessary to share moments, live experiences so that life itself highlights shadows and inner beauty.
Now, while complicated, there are a number of things to keep in mind
While it is already common for many people to walk through the corridors of life covered in their own seduction masks, it is not worth going with a headband to complete them.
Avoid idealizing. Draw conclusions through words, attitudes, gestures and also silences. A person is not known for the titles to which they are attributed, but for the details that can intuitively be.
It’s a mistake a lot of people fall into. Sometimes we can know in advance what a certain person is like. Do we know their flaws, do we know it can harm us? However, we say to ourselves, “It will be different with me: will it change?”
Unfortunately, this doesn’t usually happen. It is not common for people to change the way they are, their customs, their needs, their nuances. We will continue to wait in an unnecessary wait when our self-esteem and hopes disappear. It’s dangerous.
The problem with sincere people is that they think others are also sincere, so it’s so hard to see what others hide under their masks.
Images courtesy of Catrin Welz-Stein.