Some people want to see you, but no better than them. This type of person can feel appreciation and affection for you and rejoice in your accomplishments, as long as your success does not exceed his.
This high-frequency phenomenon can occur in several areas: between peers, between members of the same family, in the group of friends and even between couples, then one wonders: how is it possible that this can happen between people who are supposed to love?Each other?
- I’ll answer you.
- The world is full of people who rejoice when things don’t go well.
- Unfortunately many people don’t support the success of those they know and prefer to belittle or ignore this moment of success rather than share the celebration.
It is clear that we cannot be immune to any kind of social pressure, we are beings who live in society and, as such, it is normal that at some point we feel pressure for the opinions or expectations of those around us.
Do you tell someone you trust what your goals or ideas are, something that looks good and you have enough charisma to achieve them?Many times this person doesn’t show much interest, doesn’t encourage or even try to get these ideas out of your head.
Whether you’re a person who fears rejection or doesn’t meet the expectations of others, you’re always trying to please others. Thus, it allows the creation of a vicious circle as the following example:
1- I hope others approve of my expectations
2- If it is not approved, I stop doing what I really want (because I believe what I want?Is it absurd?).
3- Decrease my self-esteem and with it my self-esteem.
4- I return to point 1, because I have low self-esteem, I sacrifice my opinions to adopt the judgment of others.
Learn how to interpret these situations so that it strengthens your ability not to be fooled by people. Make sure that the envy of a friend or loved one around you may be more harmful than hatred of an enemy.
A friend trying to dim his shine is a friend who wants to control it, and a friend who wants to control it is envious. And why are you jealous? This may be due to different reasons: your relationship with others, your ideas, your aspirations, etc.
What do I think is the word?Toxic ?, should be an adjective incompatible with the word “friend”. The antidote to toxicity between colleagues and friends is learning to follow and celebrate the successes of the people around you, starting with friends and family.
For you who I don’t know (or don’t know myself), I mean that there are people who, when they walk into a room, illuminate everything with their light and are, among other things, humble people who have learned to admire. others without feeling threatened.
They stopped walking through life like a suitcase, making bad decisions just to have fun, learn to ignore the world and listen more to what is inside of you, do not let anyone destroy your originality and aspirations (even if you think they are absurd).
Don’t waste time on mediocre projects or what you don’t really want just because someone you trust made you doubt your strengths. Don’t pay the high price of becoming an artificial person just to get the applause you already deserve, just for being yourself.