There are people who are used to valuing the lives, achievements, and choices of others. And this even though no one has asked for your opinion and your comments are usually not very good.
Even knowing that this is happening and being able to distinguish malicious criticism from good comments, it’s not very easy to prevent them from affecting us in any way. When criticism and contempt are continuous, does it hurt?Self-esteem.
- People who enter the lives of others are usually the ones with the greatest emotional conflicts in their own lives.
- As they often walk between low self-esteem.
- Rejection.
- And difficulties.
In this sense, there are times when we can help them realize that they make many mistakes when they meddle in the lives of others, but other times we have to retract in order to protect our own emotional health.
Probably, at some point, the opinions and judgments of others have led you to question your reality, maybe you thought that you lived with your eyes closed and that you weren’t really aware of the image you projected in and out of you.
However, not everything is bad, because we can use these kinds of doubts to reaffirm ourselves, remember that others may know your name, but not your story, do not live in your skin or fit.
Consider that if you sometimes feel like you don’t know each other, others may not have gotten to a place they haven’t even been. Bear in mind, then, that your words obey only an illusory reality that your mind has created.
Don’t expect others to understand your journey, especially if you’ve never had to go your way.
“The young disciple of a wise philosopher comes home and says
? Master, did a friend speak of you with malice?
Wait, wait! Stop the philosopher. Have you been through the three filters you’re going to tell me?
? The three filters? His disciple asked
? Are you sure what you have to tell me is absolutely true?
? No, I have only heard a few comments from neighbors.
? Surely you should have used the second filter, which is the filter of kindness. That’s what you want to tell me, is it good for someone?
? Not really. Instead?
Oh, wow! The last filter is that of necessity, do I need to know why you’re so worried?
? Not really.
? So, ” said the sage smiling, “if this is not true, neither good nor necessary, it is better to bury him in oblivion.
We are the ones who validate the words and attitudes of others, so it is important to filter out truly constructive information and separate it from destructive information.
Thus, as we pass the filters of truth, goodness and necessity, we will continue to be what really deserves joy and not pity. Only when we stop living according to what others expect or think of us can we feel good.
Surround yourself with those people who add up and avoid the remaining ones, don’t let them cancel you with criticisms, comments or opinions that don’t intend to help you, get rid of those words that aim to nullify your skills or truncate your dreams and aspirations.
Approach these people with a sincere look, because they are the ones who will understand and respect you who you are and how you feel, the people you can count on are the ones who offer you peace without noise, distortions and hidden motives.
In short, try to ignore the malicious irony and work to build a place in your world that is far from the emotional blackmail, destruction and toxicity that characterizes certain people and environments.
Remember that the most unhappy people in this world are those who care too much about what others think.