Are there people who need others to be the first to save, solve, or offer help?However, sometimes behind this abandonment there may be some opportunism and even selfishness, for there are private moments that only the person himself can repair, and because there are those who see this moral debt paid off later.
In a way, we all know these profiles that should always be the first to respond to all the causes. Most do so in good faith; most of them are happy to be that helper and support, however, just as you need to know when help should be provided, you also need to understand when it’s best to stay in the background.
- In addition.
- There is one aspect that we cannot ignore.
- Sometimes objects can be dangerous or very delicate.
- They can have sharp edges and even cracks that.
- When affected.
- Worsen the situation.
- So there are times when the best answer is to do so.
- Nothing.
- Just be that figure who is present and offers support.
- But silently and wisely.
Broken people need the help of specialized professionals, people whose hearts or self-esteem are fragmented need their own healing time and a comfortable and adequate space where they can repair themselves little by little and at their own pace.
Therefore, there are certain processes that we cannot accelerate, nor can we rise up to be a hero of salvation in the face of causes that we do not know in depth or that require other aids.
“Help your neighbor lift the load, but not carry it” – Pythagoras-
These people sometimes insist on putting bandages where there are no wounds or bruises, in them there is certainly goodwill and even nobility, but in their desire to be the solution to all problems, they tend to overcome themselves. when they are not requested or to repair aspects that, in reality, do not need assistance or help.
We can see this, for example, in those who are determined to have sex with someone who does not want it, or even more so, in those who recommend distanceing themselves from that person because they believe they pose a serious danger. It is also these figures that encourage us to be more outgoing, more open and more conversational when they have not bothered to understand how each piece corresponds to our personality.
Social repairers need to repair what, before their eyes, seems defective, injured or unhappy. They do it automatically because, in reality, they are often the true survivors of some of the damage of the past; they are the ones who, after all, carry the wound of misfortune or dissatisfaction.
People who need others are defined by a type of profile that, in psychology, is known as White Knight Syndrome, a term coined by Berkeley doctors and psychology professors Mary Lamia and Marilyn Krieger.
This section of the population includes all the men and women who often establish relationships with people who believe injured or vulnerable, your idea, your goal, is to save and fix them, aspire to be that character that facilitates all kinds of situations. resources without it being clearly necessary.
But with this saving and restorative attitude, what they also seek is to make sense of one’s life, so the authors of the description of this type of profile point out that the white knight is distinguished by the following characteristics.
The people who need others are like white knights who go from one kingdom to another rescuing and helping those they encounter (even if they don’t ask for it or don’t need it). Therefore, most of the time, your actions are thwarted. such behaviors may seem intrusive and irritating.
So we can imagine what life is like for such profiles, they are accompanied by disappointment, suffering and helplessness because they do not recognize their efforts, their noble will, they can be tying and even manipulative. However, what we should always be able to perceive is the wounded person who lives inside.
The white knight is, in short, the one who really needs to be saved, they themselves must take the step to repair the wounds of the past, as well as the exhausted self-esteem that leads them to project their own needs on others. So, let’s be sensitive to this kind of reality.
Similarly, if we ourselves are this white knight, let us be saved; it’s time to ease the burdens and achieve the best achievement of all: personal healing.