Plato said we only love what we want and we just want what we’re missing. It seems that even in the time of this well-known philosopher, there was such a devastating feeling that today it persists and is deeply rooted in each of us: a constant discontent with life.
It’s like we’re always missing something. In the eyes of others, our lives may seem enviable or we have no complaints about, but there is a gap in us that we do not know how to fill.
- This feeling is most often found in relationships.
- Are there many people who need perfect and idealized love?This nostalgic and romantic vision of relationships.
- This love of “always being in love”.
- Not a particular person.
- Is what always makes them dissatisfied.
- So.
- Your idea of love is not based on reality.
- But on the fantasy of what it could or could have been.
- It’s a platonic love.
This desired platonic love is rarely performed. It is at this point that the person enters a state of exaltation where he feels drunk and believes that he has filled the void that has made him suffer so much.
The problem is that after a while they begin to become disinterested and return to the same dynamic to which they are accustomed: to want something unattainable and to sink into their suffering with a new platonic love.
There are many people who find pleasure or satisfaction only in desire, it seems that wishing, dreaming, having illusions and idealizing is the engine that moves your life forward, however, when they realize everything they have dreamed of, they get bored. have achieved all that is supposed to complete them, there is no longer room for desire and projection.
But what’s really going on? The platonic escapes, returns in search of that dose of need, that desire that really makes him feel alive, even if you suffer, suffers from a soft and addictive nuance, believes that there must be something better, something that keeps his illusion day after day as if he were the first and, if not, it is because he did not find what he was looking for: his mission is to keep looking.
We often think that happiness is elsewhere and that if we could access this place where it is supposed to wait, all our discontent would end. But we finally found out that this is not the case; that you don’t really have everything to feel complete and if you knew how to change certain aspects of daily life that rarely cost money, you wouldn’t have to look elsewhere for happiness.
The problem is that, most of the time, making these changes terrifies us, makes us anxious, anxious and anchored in what might have been.
The desire for what we have not yet achieved remains legitimate and, in many cases, there is a positive motivation, but when this desire becomes a necessity and therefore a painful suffering, we block ourselves and feel empty, dissatisfied and anxious all the time. .
This way of life, paradoxically, does not allow us to live, we are not free, but slaves to an idea that tells us what our life should be like.
We must end platonic love and learn to love what we do not miss, what we have in our lives: to be our partner, our work, our friends, our city, all these elements contain many positive aspects that many others would like It is a particular vision of yourself, cleaning the tarnished windows of routine and disappointment , and deliberately changing aspects that don’t fit into our lives. Live with enthusiasm and motivation.
If we are able to appreciate and thank every day what we have in our lives, the feeling of “that” will cease to anchor us in a permanent illusion. We will live the present, rejoice in what is happening to us, accept adversity and always learn a lesson or a positive part of any situation.
It is necessary to abandon the mental journeys for the future, as well as the repeated and constant complaints that alienate even the most peaceful people. Stay where you are, try your luck and change what you don’t like about your life, but I don’t want perfection or the impossible that will never come. What you have is already perfect, it should be perfect. Why don’t you start enjoying all this?