It is almost always the same story: we are more aware of what others want, of our obligations and commitments, than we desire, and what is the result?Unsenchantment, we survive more than we live and therefore lose our dreams and disconnect from ourselves. Duties and needs close access to this level of our interior and forget about self-love.
When someone ignores him and does it for a while, he ends up waking up one day thinking that his life is far from what he wanted, the conformism of dedicating ourselves to what he appeared, along with what others demanded, usually play a bad trick: taking us to a place where we feel strange.
- Many of us are good examples of this great deficit with our personal side.
- Which is not selfish and has invaded much of our society.
- A gradual change that hurts us more than it benefits.
- But that most of the time we know how to hide (others and ourselves) through conformism.
The creativity of childhood and the passion that drives us in our adolescence are lost in oblivion, turning off the light that made us shine in these moments. Look around you and see how people indulge in jobs they don’t like, adjust to their relationships, and waste their dreams.
The illusion disappears because we settle and our growth stops. The comfort zone is too pleasant to withstand fears, frustrations and uncertainties. We opted for Plan B: the simple, the easy.
From time to time it is advisable to make an emotional assessment to see how we are doing, asking ourselves what we think of our life in general and our work, relationships and what we do in particular gives us clues about our well-being.
When the result is feelings of disappointment and unsenchantment, it is very likely that we will find ourselves living our lives as actors and supporting actors, the problem is that while we know that we must devote more time to ourselves, there is one question that worries us and freezes us: if we do this, will we be selfish?
Are we selfish when we go out looking for what we need and what’s good for us?Let me tell you no, you just take care of yourself, the only love that lasts forever is self-love, so if you don’t take care of yourself, who will?
No one is selfish to wake up and say “No?” And “enough,” not to mention saving minutes for yourself and not being 100% available for requests from those around you. It’s normal to decide to stop being that person who’s always been available to everyone, but never to himself. Better late than never.
You may have become an expert in knowing in detail what your parents, partner or friends expect from you, the problem is that you have little or nothing to think about what you really want. Knowing this answer is as vital as breathing, as it affects your self-esteem and emotional well-being.
In response, the best solution is to invest in self-love. Read below how we can light the flame of self-esteem for ourselves.
If you are someone who is disconnected from your inner being, I anticipate that listening to your inner dialogue on a deeper level is a task that will take time, think of all the walls you have built, all the times you have ignored yourself. : being able to hear that language again is not a skill that can be improved overnight, however, if you have patience, you will achieve it and I can say that what you get will be worth it, both for you and those around you.