As we get older, we gain independence. With a few months, we can start crawling; when we spent ten years, they let us go somewhere unas company; and when we find a job where we’re admitted, we leave home. It is a gradual process through which we will go through a good collection of compliments, compliments and complaints, while learning and acquiring responsibilities.
Yet no matter how much we move toward independence, we will never fully emancipate ourselves from the influence that others have over us. This influence can be deliberate, such as when our boss assigns us a task; or more subtle, such as when our boss praises us, trying to strengthen our motivation and our behavior style.
- One day.
- The fly flying in the kitchen at the time said Luiz had come home with her head down.
- Her mother seeing her mood asked her what had happened.
- Luiz sadly told her that her companions had told him.
- It was useless because he did not know how to solve the problem his teacher had commanded him to solve on the board.
The mother told him that this weekend, when they went for a walk in the pine forest near her house, she had to pick up a pineapple from the ground and tell her all the bad things that happened. she with strange expression and left, perplexed. That Saturday, between kicking and kicking a football, he picked up a pineapple on the floor and said a lot of horrible words that we’re not going to repeat here.
At night, over dinner, his mother asked him if he had spoken to the pineapple and Luiz said yes. The mother told him that next Saturday he would need another pineapple, but this time he would tell her everything that had happened to her. Luiz did this and her mother asked the same question again that day.
Specifically, he asked if on a Saturday he had noticed any difference between the pineapple, before and after harvest. The boy replied no.
We have been Luiz many times and I am sure that we will continue to be, because the words of others penetrate us and leave their influence, we probably cannot avoid it, but what we can do is look at the messages that come to us from their perspective. Deserve.
Because someone who, from his point of view, is trying to portray us, whether he wants to insult us or not, can’t be more sure than something random. Indeed, certainly before receiving the message of his companions, Luiz did not. I think it was useless.
In the face of such messages, it is always a good idea to introduce a question into our internal dialogue: why should the criterion be defined by others and not by you ?, keep in mind that they only spend part of the day with you and are only aware of a small part of what you do or think, something that, whether you like it or not, does not happen to you.
Extract all the information you want from what you are told, but as for being, the verb being, you have the last word when you introduce adjectives into your definition, it is a great power, do not put it in the hands of others. , and if you ever do it partially, leave it to people who really love you.