Educating is no easy task. In fact, it is a safe path of ongoing challenges and discoveries. You may not be a mother or father, but I’m sure you’ve had a chance to spend time with a child How smart they are!How they know how to turn our backs on us! They have not yet gone to college and do not have years of experience in large companies, but many times they know what they want and are able to use all their energy to achieve this goal. Effective.
Yours is a fast-paced learning journey they continue to experience. They fall and go up. Experiment in one way, if not another, in these tests they usually adopt behaviors that we need to correct, and that is where education requires intelligence and subtlety, after a day of hard work and other obligations, obviously we will not gain energy Therefore, there is no choice but cunning.
- Punishment is part of traditional education and can be kept in its various forms.
- The caps.
- Slippers or belts were the fastest and most socially accepted until a few years ago.
- So parents sought to keep their children in their memory the behavior they had performed and the pain they had caused.
- In an associated way.
Another form of punishment is when, after inappropriate behavior, we take away a certain privilege from the child, something he loves, whether it’s watching TV, going out to play, his favorite food or one of the toys he loves most.
While there are others, the last form of punishment we’ll report is one that forces the child to do an activity he doesn’t like very much, this can include tidying up his room, increasing his study time or the number of hours. spent on a particular extracurricular activity that, if it were up to you, would immediately remove it from your routine.
We begin the article by saying that education is not an easy task, because punishing properly and at the right time requires more intelligence than an immediate slap, a sanction is good when it is the announced consequence of an action, when it is proportional to such a fault, when it is soon applied, when it is systematically applied by those responsible for the child and serves as an effective remedy for the possible harm it has caused.
However, the punishment presents two major problems. The first relates to the fact that, normally, authority must command this punishment and ensure that it is fulfilled, that is, we run the risk that the child will take some action that we understand as “punishable”, but we are not aware of what happened, so we will not apply the punishment and the child will understand that what he should do is do so in secret and not abandon the behavior.
The second problem is that punishments don’t really teach much, they point out what’s wrong, but they don’t say what behavior we want to correct, as a result, it can be replaced by even more inappropriate behavior. we punish a child for insulting to get attention, if we punish him he can replace this conduct by beating and we will have won nothing.
What do the awards and recognitions bring? That’s a nice emotion, isn’t it, if only for that, we have to educate with awards and recognitions. I recently read an article about the blue pen and its power, reported something teachers do systematically, but that can be applied by parents even if they don’t correct the tests. The red pen is usually abused (corrections) and the blue pen is used little (pointing to the positive elements).
Using the blue pen means indicating what is right, this means recognizing, stimulating, motivating the child to repeat this behavior or continuing in this direction How difficult it is to correct with the blue pen!
The blue pen is magical because of the power it has in the mood of the person who educates with his ink. The world is full of parents who look at chess and put aside approvals because they consider them normal. make approved people extraordinary, they stimulate them.
In fact, many times we correct our little ones because they bother us, don’t make noise, don’t blow in the straw, don’t jump to bed, don’t get dirty because I’m going to have to. Anyway, below is a clear message: boy, don’t bother me. Even in our quiet stubbornness, we can come and punish the joy that is extrapolated.
However, when the child reads, plays quietly with clay or watches the TV show we like, we don’t tell him anything. Our way of saying we like your behavior is a lack of correctness. It’s sad, isn’t it?
We’re not talking about buying you a present or letting you stay in the park for another five minutes; we’re talking about the best price in the world for a child. Let your parents tell you that you’re doing a certain thing very well, that they come up to you from behind and give you a hug or join your reading or your game. Is there a better price than this recognition for a child?