To love someone is much more than stripping a body, it is to undress a soul, but that love must be given up to make it a complete love, there must be a balance between the feelings of the parties. Prayers like? My existence doesn’t make sense without ?,? I live for and for her ?,?Is she all to me ?,? is he the most important thing in my life ?,?I don’t know what I would do without it, these are expressions that should be completely removed from our thinking and vocabulary if we want to have a healthy relationship.
The intense feeling of passion has been studied by many disciplines: philosophical thinking, literary writers, scientific thinking, psychology . . . because it is a state in which the person is overwhelmed by happiness, joy, sensuality and many other positive feelings.
- Is passion a type of passing obsession for another person that produces different effects such as idealization.
- Loss of concentration.
- Insomnia.
- Loss of appetite.
- Daydreaming?But all these effects only last a certain amount of time; will come soon and the reality and need to see this person as he is.
Several studies and scientific research have shown that when we fall in love, our brain produces a combination of hormones similar to those that occur in any case of addiction, increase dopamine and norepinephrine levels, so we feel excited and energized. Serotonin levels decrease, which can cause repetitive thoughts for someone else.
A study by the Albert Einstein College of Medicine found that when love ends, as when a person is addicted to a drug, the consequences of addiction are so great that they can lead, in some cases, to depression and certain types of behaviors. Haunting.
Another study conducted in the UK on the psychology of love interviewed 400 people and concluded that small acts are the most important because they are the most appreciated. beautiful you are every morning, they are little things that are worth much more than spending money on expensive gifts.
Social media is an aspect that damages relationships today, according to a survey conducted by the U. S. Academy of Family Lawyers in 2011, there has been an increase in divorces over the use of social media, as they generate jealousy, mistrust and, consequently, problems for the couple.
But one of the deepest problems affecting many people is the inability to distinguish between love and addiction. A person who has an emotional dependence usually has low self-esteem, a submissive character and, above all, cannot live his life alone. in solitude.
They are people who feel the profound need to have someone by their side, idealizing that person and living for and for him. Some features that may stand out in emotionally dependent people are those described below.
The dependent can’t live alone. They are people who always need to have a romantic relationship and who do not learn to enjoy their company, they often change one relationship to another so that they are not alone or because they cannot think of a life without being in a relationship.
In addition, they tend to have low self-esteem. An emotional addict is often a person who doesn’t love himself very much, so she constantly seeks the approval and affection of others to feel safe, deserving and loved.
Dependents can’t say no, they’re complacent people who, for fear of being rejected or causing a breakdown in their relationship, can’t say no, don’t express their opinion when they don’t like or do something. don’t make them feel good, just focus on the other person’s pleasure. so as not to lose it.
In addition, they tend to place the romantic relationship above everything and everyone else, a dependent puts their relationship above their interests, their friends, their family, the most important thing is their partner and does not allow anything to get in the middle of the In other words, the dependent puts the relationship before himself.
On the other hand, an emotionally dependent couple is generally self-confident, but self-centered, dominant and un affectionate, so they find their perfect complement in emotional addicts.
“Keep the love that gives you answers, not trouble. Trust and more doubts. -Paulo Coelho-