Every time my grandmother Mercedes saw me trapped in one of those everyday crossroads of life, she would look at me intently and, unfailingly, approach to repeat a chorus with which I took out all the problems:?, And the docile bad life ?. I confess that as a child I was irritated. Amansa ?, it seemed more suitable for wild horses or circus animals, but as I grew up I discovered the delicate wisdom of this phrase and also understood that, in fact, there are forces in us that must be domesticated.
The human being spends his life losing a happiness he has never felt, a life in which there are no problems, no losses, no contradictions, only successes, pleasant days and eternal laughter, we rarely realize that if we have gone through all this, it is only for an ephemeral moment.
- We are also used to reacting preventively to any conflict.
- The word? It has a connotation of disgust in our minds.
- We pushed her away.
- ” Get out of here.
- ” we tell each other when it appears on the horizon.
- The question then is: are the problems as serious as they seem?.
You certainly remember the arithmetic classes. The teacher indicates the task to be developed and inserts the title “Problems”. Then there was an exercise that included a situation where Joo sold Peter I don’t know how many apples at an x-price, and you have to find out a way to find out. how much Pedro spent If you did the process correctly, in the end you will find the value.
Something similar happens in life
Like it or not, we learn problems. Not arithmetic problems, but others not so quantifiable that are present since our awakening:?I don’t want to get up, but I have to!During the day new conflicts may arise, larger and smaller than this, and the same thing happens throughout life, the difference is that it is no longer a matter of applying a formula, but of choosing the best possible route based on the resources we have as human beings.
There is no automatic exit. Therefore, every problem happens to learn, we are not the same before and after a situation is resolved because to solve it we had to face it, the problems force us to constantly ask ourselves what we really want, in which direction we want. to take in our lives. So, far from being an upset, problems are great teachers who make us learn.
The problem is a breaking point where opposing forces are faced. You can think of it as a torment, or take an open perspective and realize that a contradiction you hadn’t considered before becomes visible.
Your perspective may be to hide or take strong action on the problem, as a strategy to eliminate it, but it will soon reappear, sometimes more strongly, so the real problem may not be in the situation that generates a conflict, but in the way you see and deal with it. Some even manage to turn it into an opportunity. Like Demostene, the greatest speaker in ancient Greece, who as a child had speech problems and worked hard to achieve practically perfection in the art of oratory.
Says a popular refrain, which my grandmother keeps repeating: “If lemons fall from the sky, learn how to make lemonade. “