As we approach the end of the year, we’re starting to think about the goals for next year. put the plan into practice, lasts only a week or two. It’s always hard to develop new habits.
In order not to fail again when building new habits, it is necessary to take into account four psychological skills that we will talk about below.
- They will allow us to see.
- From the beginning.
- Whether we can really achieve this goal and create this new habit or if.
- On the contrary.
- We end up leaving the company as usual.
One of the first psychological skills to build new habits is to evaluate whether we really want to include this activity in our routine or not.
We may not want to go to the gym, but because it’s something a lot of people want, we end up thinking we should do it too, without thinking about it beforehand.
Before we decide to set a goal or a new habit, we should take the time to think about whether it really corresponds to what we want. Is that something I want or want?
We can write about all this in a notebook to reread it when we need it, and empty our minds when we lack motivation.
If we try to adopt a habit we don’t really want to have, we waste our time.
Once you’ve learned to distinguish between the habits you want to acquire and the habits you don’t want, it’s time to understand what happens when we try to create new habits.
What thoughts and feelings usually appear? Some of them can be laziness, tiredness or even fear. Even if we don’t know how we feel, we know it’s an unpleasant thing that quickly pushes us to throw in the towel. .
To implement this second psychological ability to build new habits, you have to stop, feel the emotion and describe it in a newspaper.
Then we can also write down what we usually do to appease it. Maybe he’s watching TV. Or eating instead of going out for exercise, it’s very important for us to be able to identify the pitfalls we fall into that prevent us from adopting the habits we want for ourselves.
Now that we know what habits correspond to what we want, and also the pitfalls in which we often fall and that prevent us from stabilizing them, it is important to act, there is no point staying in the world of thoughts, wanting to do something that we never put into practice.
At this point, we must, despite all the emotions that can try to make us stay in the same place (i. e. on the sofa when going to the gym), or that we have to postpone the alarm that warns that it is time to meditate, let us nevertheless move on to the field of action.
Remember why you want to create this habit in your life. Review what you wrote when you realized that this habit was in line with your goals. After that, take action. The sense of well-being that will flood you after doing what you want will be very rewarding.
Remember that the actual decision is measured by taking action, if there is no action, you have not made the decision. -Tony Robbins-
It is important that we be clear that building new habits requires a little practice, so we should not punish ourselves because we have failed, we are human and through mistakes we can try again, and in a better way more efficient way. Therefore, it is possible to try to start a new habit over and over again.
Considering these psychological skills, it is possible that this habit, before so difficult to integrate into the routine, may begin to be present in our daily life naturally.
If we manage to keep it long enough, like a month, in the end it will become part of our daily life, something we will do automatically, such as brushing our teeth or washing our hands before cooking.
It’s always hard to develop new habits. We get used to our routine and when we try to include something to change it, even in part, it seems that our thoughts are doing everything we can to avoid it, however, it’s about consistency.
What habits have you managed to incorporate into your life?