A terrible storm. The wind hits the ocean and lifts its waves, turning them into menacing shapes dotted with sea foam. But we must be strong and liven up the candles; our strength will hold the helm, we will adapt to these movements of the waters. If you get scared now, are you sure we’ll sink?
We know change is difficult. Changes sometimes hurt, but they are necessary for our evolution as individuals, they help us find not only happiness, but also tranquility and integrity itself.
- Is it very interesting to know that in Eastern culture the word “change”?is represented by two ideograms illustrating two terms:?danger.
- And “opportunity.
- ” A very true meaning.
Why do changes cause us fear or uncertainty? Let’s take an example. You have to move to a city to find work or simply to have a better life. Fear of not knowing if you will succeed and uncertainty about emotional and personal cost are undoubtedly the main obstacles to this first step that can change your life.
Another example. You have several years of relationship with a person and you feel that you are not happy, it is not what you expected from a relationship and every day that passes you are safer, however, you are afraid to leave this person because, at the same time, you do not know how to lead this new life in solitude, even if you do not know how you can continue to support your partner. Make no mistake: any change creates uncertainty and fear. We have a feeling that, for a moment, we will lose control of our lives. And few things can be more painful than that?
Without knowing how, people fall into a reality where what is known is comfortable, because we know how to act?, That is, we are in a kind of comfort zone, where even if we are not entirely happy, we are safe and do not have to face the dangers.
Each change involves many personal values. This forces us to start adapting to a different environment, in which we must invest a great deal of physical and emotional effort, jeopardizing our well-being and safety.
In order to embark on this change that awaits us so much, but which we dare not take, the first step is to be realistic and aware of our current situation, how do you feel now?Is it your reality what you want to have, with the people you want by your side?When you look in the mirror, can you tell yourself you’re happy?
It is true that these questions are very important and difficult to answer, but they can help us identify the nature of our problems and the possible need for change in certain aspects of our lives, large or small.
Change is part of our lives; It is not an insurmountable obstacle for someone deliberately to put us in the way. First of all, we must put aside all those negative thoughts and possible anticipations of threats, which will certainly only serve as thorns in our path. Any fear is a pair of scissors. to clip our wings and we all have the right to fly.
The main thing is to gradually expose yourself to certain situations. Thus, we can develop strategies to adapt to change and, at the same time, learn and grow. After all, if we don’t take any risks, we will never achieve the skills to be brave and take control of our own lives.
To lose fear is to bet on happiness. I’m sure you want to do it too.