What is self esteem?
You’ve probably heard the word self-esteem. So we can say that self-esteem is our assessment of ourselves and our feelings, experiences and thoughts. Self-esteem is not static and is not something we can say we were born with or without.
- In fact.
- Self-esteem varies throughout our lives.
- Depending on our personal.
- Emotional.
- Etc.
- Situation.
- We can say that when there is an agreement between what we think.
- What we feel and what we do.
- In addition to being satisfied with it.
- Our level of self-esteem increases.
It is very important to have a good level of self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a factor that in many cases leads to other problems such as insecurity, anxiety, depression, food problems, alcoholism, obsessions, etc.
Having a good level of self-esteem is not being selfish. There are people who confuse self-esteem with selfishness, but they are two very different things. Selfishness is thinking of us first, then also in us, often regardless of what others think, feel or expect of us. A good level of self-esteem, unlike selfishness, is to think of oneself as one more being in humanity, with virtues and flaws, not to think that we are better or worse than anyone else, only unique and different.
People with self-esteem take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them; They clearly take into account the opinions of others, but they always defend their rights, ideas and opinions without offending others, they trust each other and, if something they don’t like or don’t do wrong, they try to fix it.
A low level of self-esteem is detected when we start seeing others as better people than us; we only see flaws in ourselves (hopefully we also see some virtue, but we attribute it); we do not give our opinion for fear of rejection; We seek the approval of others; We avoid responsibility; we don’t feel safe, we don’t think we can do it right; we are very afraid of failure, etc. Our image is definitely distorted.
You can make a list of your strengths and weaknesses, for example. It is important that you work hard until you can balance the two lists. Nobody is perfect. We all have positive qualities and others to improve. If you see only flaws in making your list, think about what may be failing with your self-perception.
It is important that we take into account that we work in different contexts of our lives (with friends, at work, with family, with acquaintances, with strangers, etc. ) and we may not behave in the same way in all contexts Look carefully and look for these qualities. Remember that a quality can be positive for you, while for others it can be neutral or even negative. The important thing is how you see yourself. You can also take professional self-esteem tests, such as Rosenberg’s.
1? Don’t compare yourso to anyone, because we’re all different. Don’t take these negative comments from people who don’t know you seriously and barely know what’s happening to you or who you are.
two? Do not confuse self-esteem with pride or selfishness, having a good self-esteem puts you at a point where you accept and understand that each person is unique in the world, another is to think that you are inferior or superior to others; It is not self-esteem, much less healthy.
3? Identify your fears, your mistakes and face them. It is common: we have all made mistakes, the important thing is to find a way to solve them and learn from them.
4? Learn to say NO, to express your opinions and desires without fear, always from clear language and without offending the person you are talking to.
As a Hindu proverb says: “Is there so much good in the worst and so much bad in the best that it is absurd to condemn someone?”
Do you think you have good self-esteem?
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