We all need recognition. First and foremosh, validating ourselves in our capacities, our image and our value, in addition, recognition is also the pillar that lays the foundations of children’s self-esteem, the momentum that the worker needs in his activity and the strength that will build a strong relationship between the members of the couple. So is it important that the person feels loved, valued, valued?
The concept of recognition, however curious, is sometimes misunderstood; some people see it as a negative dimension. After all, people who continually seek positive reinforcement from others are unable to maintain adequate emotional independence, they are, in the eyes of many, personalities who build their self-esteem from the answers given by others.
- In the face of this.
- It must be said that the key to recognition is balance.
- After all.
- If there is one thing that we cannot exclude is the great importance that recognition has in our relational.
- Social and emotional fabric.
- Let us remember Maslow’s pyramid of needs.
- We will see that recognition occupies a prominent place.
- It is at this point in the hierarchy that this subtle harmony occurs between self-recognition or the ability to feel competent with the importance of others also appreciate who we are.
- And do.
Human beings live in constant duality. We all like to feel present in an environment, but at the same time we also like to be absent, so we feel free, independent and sometimes separated from our everyday scenarios, however, something that no one can love is to be Invisible Become that number that no one sees or appreciates and that is not take into account.
Who knows very well that it is the children who stop at the bottom of the class, in a corner of the playground, with no one to talk to and live a rich and colorful childhood, just as teenagers know that no one values, but everyone. Punishes. Also the person who does not feel appreciated by his spouse, living in the deepest place of loneliness and emotional abandonment. Recognition is a psychic tool that validates us with our reference groups, this, in turn, gives us dignity as individuals.
After all, to recognize someone is to make them visible, it is to give presence, to allow “to be”, “to be” and to grow free, is to appreciate someone for what it is, to give them a affection that stimulates their personal growth, but that does not limit or invalidate. Recognition generates self-ception so that we can somehow also further strengthen the muscle of our self-esteem.
On the other hand, one aspect that we cannot forget about self-esteem is that, in this perception of self-assessment, it also includes the way we believe that others see us, one cannot separate from the other. We are social beings and what others say or think of us will influence in one way or another who we are.
We are aware that few things can be more painful than rejection, experiencing abandonment or contempt in our social group triggers our panic alarms, after all unsused loneliness and isolation caused by negative bonds generate suffering, however, as we said at first, we must be able to reconcile the recognition we give ourselves with what we receive from others.
Living our life based only on positive external reinforcements generates dependency and discomfort, so it is important to remember a simple aspect: the quality with which we recognize ourselves will in turn influence the way in which others value us, let’s take a few examples. An employee who is confident in his abilities, who feels capable and confident, will have a positive impact on his work environment, his performance will be good and, on average, others will recognize his efforts.
Another example. The person who values himself, who feels realized, free and autonomous builds much stronger emotional relationships. This mature and safe character also arouses recognition and admiration, but never mutual dependence. No constant reinforcement is required. Therefore, our happiness will not depend exclusively on whether or not we receive this positive recognition at all times, there is a perfect balance between the recognition we give and what we receive, this can be done with the utmost sincerity and true affection.
In conclusion, today we cannot ignore this concept. Recognition is the basis of any society for a very simple reason: it promotes inclusion, affirms the presence of the invisible regardless of age, condition, ethnicity or personality, knowing how to recognize is also knowing how to love wisely. After all, those who practice sound recognition are able to validate the other for who they are, not what they would like them to be.
In this way we will learn to recognize ourselves, to give visibility to people and needs through love, availability and humility.