We all make mistakes. Over the course of our lives, we will have to forgive more than once, and sooner or later we will also need someone to forgive us. True love is said to manifest itself in three key moments: failure, sickness, and forgiveness. unable to forgive, this person may be less important to you than your pride.
The missions we do about what we do to others involve a certain minimisation of damage, when we see it from our personal point of view, we tend to justify ourselves or find excuses to act as we do. It hurts us, we attribute this same fact to his personality, and it is no wonder that we see intentionality in the fortuitous, which leads to an emotional disorder that prevents us from forgiving.
- Recognizing that we also make mistakes prevents us from being petty tyrants who justify everything they do.
- But who are true judges when they do it with them.
- Forgiveness is not just a gesture towards the other.
- It is the noblest gesture towards oneself.
At some point, we are all in the position of having to forgive or be forgiven, do and do things that hurt, consciously or unconsciously. Our concept of forgiveness is somewhat distorted.
One may think that if someone is forgiven, reason is given or justified to the person who has hurt us that forgiving is forgetting, giving less importance to what happened, giving himself up, giving something to the other, but nothing else. reality; forgiveness is for us and for no one else.
Forgiveness does not mean that we no longer care about the harm suffered, or that it doesn’t matter much less that we have to behave as if nothing has happened, this means that we accept what has happened in our lives and that we abandon negative feelings. and thoughts to move on.
If we do not forgive, we will remain connected with that person, even in a harmful and toxic way, freeing ourselves from these negative emotional bonds opens us to new emotions and experiences that remain to be lived.
There are different positions on forgiveness that should or should not be forgiven, the first and most common is the one that sees forgiveness as essential for the healing of emotional wounds and emphasizes how beneficial the practice is to physical and mental health.
The latter has a different vision of forgiveness than the first, and considers that, in some cases, not forgiving can also be beneficial, as it can harm those who forgive and may endanger vulnerable groups, such as abuse or abuse. Abuse.
The third position is when you realize that there really is no one to forgive, in an instant you realize that sometimes the situations that happen to us are nobody’s fault, which is how life works.
According to Dr. Schlatter, forgiveness benefits those who forgive more than those who receive it, and does not necessarily require repentance from those who do evil. Recognizing ourselves in others will help us free ourselves from this heavy burden of resentment, where we will find only feelings of hostility and resentment that will sooner or later rebel against us.