The beginning of everything is to accept reality as it is, life flows constantly and during it leaves us a series of experiences that constitute our knowledge, this knowledge refers to ourselves, others and everything around us, experiences can be challenging, fun and fantastic, adding an extra dose of wisdom to our own existence.
There are also painful experiences, because from the beginning life is made of needs, frustrations and impossibility, when this is not recognized fears, mistrust and pessimism arise, in fact, we end up blaming ourselves. So, if we get to this point, it is essential to find a way to reconcile with ourselves.
“No man can feel comfortable without his own approval. -Mark Twain-
One of the most widespread and best-performing therapeutic resources is to observe ourselves with more indulgence, it is not easy, but it is important to learn to accept our individual limitations and traits, you don’t have to be yourself or start an endless struggle against your own personality thinking it’s totally horrible.
You probably don’t love us completely, or at least part of us, when we stand in front of the mirror, we may have a tendency to severe and negative self-criticism.
Often we don’t even look at ourselves, but compare ourselves to a mental ideal. That’s why it’s important to learn to observe yourself carefully and, why not, fondly. At first, a good idea is to know and recognize this physical image. It’s unique in the world and can’t be compared.
Another good idea is to look in the mirror of our own inner world, there are virtues and limitations as they exist in every human being, in this way we will be able to accept them when we understand that everyone, absolutely all, is imbued with imperfection.
If we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot accept others, a trait that differentiates those who are accepted and appreciated is that they can also value others, on the contrary, those who have an internal battle unseated also transfer this conflict to others.
You don’t need to travel to the Himalayas and enter a state of concentration and absolute silence to look inside ourselves. At first, two things are enough to find oneself: wanting to meet and get lost. To reconcile with yourself, accept yourself, and love you, you must first know yourself and then recognize yourself through kindness and understanding.
Sometimes we cannot accept ourselves because we are responsible for filling ourselves with guilt, we do not recognize a defect or limitation as a reality of every human being, but we scold and learn to turn mistakes into the spears we carry forever. We cannot forgive ourselves for our mistakes and behave as if we were enemies of ourselves.
In every human being there are doubts about himself, so, first of all, it is very important to learn how we relate to our own thoughts, it is important to detect these lines of self-destructive thinking. overcoming the negative perception you may have of yourself will free you from this prison.
No matter how perfect we are, human nature, though wonderful, is imperfect. And that may be your biggest attraction, because it will lead us to try to be better every day.
Similarly, recognizing our limits is an important step toward maturity and wisdom and best of all: it is a direct experience that everyone experiences differently.
When we act against what we feel, our body expresses itself, in fact, we can become a kind of disease for ourselves.
So not only do we attack, but we also disconnect from that balance that exists in the universe, remember that many of the diseases we suffer have an emotional origin, and almost all are related to self-ception and self-love.
As contradictory as it may seem, sometimes we cannot accept ourselves because we have a gigantic vanity. Some also call it “narcissism. ” We don’t care about being ourselves, but about being superior to others, so we can’t accept our mistakes and failures, point the finger at each other, and get emotionally abused.
Remember that mistakes do not lead to failure, but to experience. What is certainly a mistake is to remain in repentance if you have made a mistake. There are always ways to make up for mistakes. All of this is part of an evolutionary awareness that must be opened to new ways of valuing and resolving borders. The principle of everything is to reconcile with yourself and give you the opportunity to appreciate the person you are.
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