This article is titled “Reducing shyness” because it seemed unrealistic to put “Eliminate shyness” as it is something that can not be removed overnight, takes time and especially a lot of training.
So the best time to start getting rid of shyness is now, without practice and exposure to what produces fear will not be possible to improve.
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- Make a list: Make a list of the things that cause you the most shyness.
- To start with the ones that scare you the most.
- Then you must start training starting with those who cause you less shyness and after overcoming them.
- Level up to the most feared of you.
How do I know if I can resolve my shyness on my own or should I seek professional help?You’ll know when to start facing yourself. If your level of nervousness or negative thoughts prevent you from daring to face situations again, you need help.
What does it best is these confrontations, and if confronting it leaves it unhealthy or because it doesn’t dare, it’s hampering progress. This is where a professional must continue to pressure you to continue through these situations, giving you the tools or relaxation techniques that will serve as a springboard towards your goal.
Symptoms that would be nice to think of asking for help: When you’ve stopped dealing with the situations you’re afraid of, because you think you don’t have medication, or because it makes you nervous that makes you sick, threw away the towel or spent time dealing but time goes by and you don’t notice any improvement.
Remember that time does not change; changes happen because over time we have many experiences that shape us, if you don’t face these experiences, you won’t progress.
2. Only with you: exercise when you are alone. You can pick up a newspaper and read it aloud in a firm and secure tone, until you record on video as if you were talking to an audience.
In this way your mind prepares and gets used to this safe attitude and when you do something similar in society, you will have already learned a practice to do better.
3. Keep good thoughts about yourself: install in your mind 3 positive thoughts about yourself, which you should remember when facing feared situations.
For example, thoughts of motivation and value about you such as
? Even if I’m scared I can do it, I believe in myself!
? I am a person of great virtue, I love myself and I accept myself for who I am, no matter how I leave today
? I am calm because I know I am a very useful person Good luck, everything will be fine !!
Attitudes of self-love and acceptance: Love has been shown to heal and change, people who grow up in an environment of love and acceptance tend to grow with healthy self-esteem and overcome shyness at a young age.
If, even if you don’t stop facing the dreaded situations, you don’t notice any improvement, it may be because you don’t face the root of the problem.
Shyness is not always the same in everyone, each case is unique, for some the lack of self-esteem and the inferiority complex can cause shyness, but in others it can be something else, such as perfectionism, etc.
Believing yourself inferior to others is often a characteristic of shy people, it is an irrational thought, because no one is more or less than others.
Sometimes it may seem like that, but it’s not. Some people know how to demonstrate their virtues where they can be seen by all, but others, by the inferiority complex, are not able to show their virtues, either by shyness or because they have not even discovered what their strengths are.
We all have great virtues, but they are not always discovered, so from today it starts to value you as you deserve. Decreasing shyness is the task of perseverance; don’t be discouraged or defended, even if things don’t go the way you want.
How does a prayer say, “Success is not about getting things, it’s about never getting discouraged”?
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