The world of human relations inevitably interests and affects us, we cannot remain indifferent to this fact, we learn to discover who we are through the gaze of others, and every person we meet in our lives can bring us something different.
Are you still open to the possibility that someone can contribute something important to your life? Depending on our openness, this will be more or less true; The important thing is to recognize that each person has this potential in our life, just as we have it in the lives of others; being aware of this possibility and taking advantage of it depends on everyone.
- Every relationship we live in is potentially important.
- Any encounter we have can reveal a lot about ourselves.
- Whether in our romantic relationships.
- With our family.
- With our friends.
- Our casual relationships and our working relationships.
- Any kind of relationship can have an impact on us.
Each relationship becomes an opportunity to see how we react to each person; how we communicate, how we feel, what bothers us, what behaviors we like, what they cause us anger and fury, etc.
When we focus on the other person in terms of how we feel, we lose a valuable perspective. It is not the other person who created an emotion, I am the one who had this reaction to his behavior, which I can investigate and see where it comes from. , as an opportunity to see what it has to do with my life.
For a person to react in this way, it is assumed that it is well aware that it is not the other person who causes us anger, discomfort or sadness, nor that which generates happiness, joy or enthusiasm. The whole repertoire of emotions, whether pleasant or unpleasant, is generated by ourselves through connection. These are answers we give about our experience and belief system.
There are many feelings, desires and intentions that we are ashamed of and end up rejecting completely. They are part of us that we do not want to see; and to defend ourselves we use projection. We project onto others what we do not want to see in ourselves.
We have emotional reactions that trigger projection, and can be both positive and negative. In the positive aspects, you reflect in the other a part that you love of yourself, that you appreciate and appreciate, and of which you are not aware. In the negative, you reflect something you censor, a part of yourself that you don’t like, doing everything you can to avoid having to recognize; implies an internal conflict that interferes with relationships.
The interesting thing about being able to recognize our projections is how our attitudes and perceptions towards the people and the world around us are essentially the rejected ideas we nur feed on ourselves.
Everyone can offer us great love, good company and important learning. We become demanding until it comes from outside, however, it is an internal problem. Everything that makes sense to our lives appears when we are open to receiving it.
No one can offer us integrity, strength and stability, and it is not right that we cover this responsibility of others, all of that comes from within and is facilitated by the relationships we have.