My inner child stays in me, he is not gone, it is the voice I hear when I allow myself to be free and dream new things, she asks me to heal the emotional wounds of the past . . .
It’s normal for us to frequently hear phrases like “The Need to Cure Your Inner Child. “Far from being a spiritual current, this concept has its origins in psychoanalysis.
- The importance of the first years of our life and their respective past experiences will shape much of our personality.
- Values.
- Emotional balance and self-esteem.
In addition, many of these early memories can become shadows of fear or anguish, or memories of a full and happy childhood that will accompany us as adults.
Each of us has its own “existential ark”, where the first 8 years of life are undoubtedly the key to who we are now.
It is there, in a hidden corner of our being, where the inner child hides, we all seem mature and safe adults, well protected in our armor of great warriors, able to face this complex world.
However, we often close our eyes and know that something is missing; hurts something that does not have an external but internal injury.
There is a child in all of us who has stayed at an age when a certain kind of need has arisen, of unmet need. Let’s talk about it now.
Some people may smile or see something ironic in the term “inner child. “For many, this expression denotes the weakness, innocence, and gaze of someone who still doesn’t quite know what the world is and how it’s going.
“Do adults know everything and children know nothing?I think so. And more, “Is childhood this stage that we all live without worry and absolute happiness?”Some people consider that to be false.
Childhood is the awakening of life, where the first questions appear and where we receive the first answers, if what surrounds us is detachment, necessity, sadness and abandonment, it will be difficult to become an emotionally safe adult.
To grow with maturity and happiness, every child needs to develop a healthy affection where there is sincere love that gives him safety at every step, every fall.
If the bond developed with parents is not right, all these first experiences will mark us in one way or another.
Childhood is not always synonymous with happiness or peace, no one has guaranteed her physical and emotional well-being when she comes into the world.
Being a child is never easy, because we all need the support of someone to start walking, pronounce the first syllables and know that fears, anxieties, disappear with hugs and appropriate words.
Having clarified the need to accept that we all have an inner child, it is important to know now what he can ask of us.
Take a moment to think about these dimensions
? Your inner child may ask you to resolve some aspects of the past.
? You may need an explanation of a fact of your childhood, ask for forgiveness, or have to offer it yourself.
? You may not have an emotional need to solve the past either. Now, our inner child also demands that we be freer in our daily lives.
Do you need to allow yourself to relativize your reality a little more, to let go of your worries, your stress?
? Be more spontaneous, let yourself laugh a little more, recover a little of your lost innocence and with it your illusion.
? Our inner child also demands love. Love and be loved. Overcome your scruples, shame or gray adult appearance and give yourself some emotional freedom.
Every process of emotional healing requires a full and authentic conviction of its own. No one can be free by force, if not necessary first.
It must be clear that we can only solve a particular problem if we are first convinced that it exists. Do you think, for example, of your daily life?
Do you think it doesn’t matter how hard your partner is, it doesn’t make you happy?Is there any kind of love in you that you can’t define?
This small exercise in visualization and emotional reconstruction can help in many ways.
1- Take a picture of when you were little, when you were 7 or 8 years old.
2- Let the memories return, calmly, evoke those years and be free as emotions and images come to you.
3- Now visual see this child
4- Ask him what he needs, what he wants, what he needs. Ask him what he needs and what he would like to feel free and complete.
Think about it, it will definitely help you.