Be and let it be. This simple and basic principle does not apply widely, not all of us are aware that each of us has a rhythm, an inner music and a way of seeing and feeling things, perhaps that is why we are forced to protect ourselves from people who dare to challenge. us and shape our emotions according to their will.
Let’s talk about rhythms. It is a sensitive and unknown subject, and we are not always aware of it, besides, we are now almost obsessed with promoting faster rhythms at all levels: children must learn to read and write as soon as possible, adolescents must behave as adults, and adults only compare to the rhythms of others.
- We forget that to aspire to true inner harmony.
- It is not necessary to take money.
- Power or prestige as a reference.
- Let alone obsess over what we lack and what others have already achieved.
- All we can get is to beg and spin.
- To the rhythm of raw and chaotic music.
True harmony begins with itself. It is only when we achieve calm, self-knownness and humility of heart that there is nothing left and nothing is missing, the world achieves a magical balance. No matter how fast the world revolves, whatever the demands of others: because the beacon of happiness is within us.
In the book “Alice Through the Mirror,” Lewis Carroll gave us a thought-profiding moment that scientists and sociologists rushed to reproduce to develop what we call the “Red Queen Hypothesis. “When Alice arrives in Wonderland, after a previous conversation, the queen takes her hand to start a career, she has to do it because in this world everyone runs and they do it very fast.
Alice quickly realizes that no matter how fast she runs, she doesn’t move. Gradually, the Red Queen explains the reason: “Here, it takes a lot to run to stay in the same place. However, to get to someone else, don’t you need to run twice as much?The same is true in our society. If we speed up the child’s passage more than expected for his age, we are expected to increase the child’s chances of success.
If we show others that we can offer and do more than our opportunities, we can succeed, yet the only goal we will achieve is unhappiness, we are involved in a fierce and demanding environment that forces us to go faster, depriving us of time, calm and even life.
But keep in mind that nothing grows in a world of haste, why does everything in this life have its cooking time, its preparation and maceration time?So, in order to achieve this inner harmony, we must establish an internal bond of our being to put into practice something very difficult: to stop being what others expect.
People are like tops that revolve around a ballroom, some go faster, some go faster, others stop from time to time, and others go at such frantic speed that they end up hitting each other. ? It is not exactly easy and, therefore, it is common at some point to feel overwhelmed.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi explained in her book “The Evolutionary Self” that many people come to consultation with a psychologist looking for a lesson of rapid personal growth. They arrive with such a high level of saturation that some are looking for quick solutions in desperate times. .
However, there are no miracles hidden in the sleeve or top hat for the discomfort of life. Understanding that even healing and rebuilding self-esteem takes time is critical. In fact, as Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi explains, the higher the level of anxiety, the decrease the chances of achieving that flow of life in which one feels good, in balance.
We already know that to achieve this inner calm in need, we will need time, willpower and dedication every day. Once we realize that any changes carry responsibility, we will apply the following strategies:
In conclusion, it is necessary to understand that everyone goes their own way in itself and, in turn, is at a specific stage of their personal growth, some will take longer to understand certain things, so they have no choice but to be patient and Practice respect We will learn to let people go while we remain in our own center.
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