Respect and protection of personal boundaries is a principle of health, balance and well-being, however, as we know, not everyone does, why do people who do not consider our right to privacy ?, why are there people who invade, invade?and boycott our emotional, mental and even physical barriers?
All issues related to personal space are often as complex as they are delicate, and this is the case, first of all, because many people can have a difficult time, at some point, to firmly set a limit, a personal limit. where values, identities and rights are protected. Secondly, we must also accept another reality that is a little more striking and even desperate: there are profiles that are unable to identify and respect these social signs.
- Also.
- If they see them.
- They have no trouble moving between them.
- Is this the case.
- For example.
- Of certain couples.
- Family.
- Friends?The emotional component and closeness we have with some people may make them believe they have the right to violate our personal barriers.
An expert on the subject, Dr. Ernest Hartmann, explained in his book Limits in mind that there are certain psychological disorders and personality styles in which the person is unable to identify (and respect) these social codes so basic to a healthy life. . Let’s go a little further on this.
“Everyone must be respected as an individual, but no one should be worshipped. “Albert Einstein.
Respect is one of the best qualities that we can exercise, gives strength, meaning and coherence to human relationships, also allows us to create more dynamic, productive and, above all, happy environments. Respect is to tolerate, is to leave, it is, and, in turn, it gives it a sense of dignity that allows the other to realize himself as a person, to have his space and place in the world.
All of this seems as inspiring as it is understandable. However, this scenario we do not see in the day to day as much as we would like, there are people who do not know how to respect personal limits, violating them in different ways:
Then we’ll see what possible reasons can lead these people to do so
In a study published in the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, psychologists Bulger, Carrie A. , Matthews, Russell A. , Hoffman, Mark E conducted several workplace surveys to discover the following: personal limitations in work contexts.
We’ve been talking about that upstairs. People less likely to respect personal boundaries are (usually) the ones who should consider us the most, so it is common for some family members, friends or even partners to assume that they have the right to ask us or do certain things simply because they are important to us.
We have a great feeling of guilt and frustration. Over time, the fabric of the self concept becomes so damaged that the few remaining personal limitations also tend to dissolve.
If one person can’t respect the other person’s personal limits, the first question we have to ask ourselves is: did I tell others where my limits are, was I firm enough for others to understand what they can and can’t do?
It is clear that there are always profiles with a greater tendency to disrespect, to believe that they have that right to rape us, however, there are a number of aspects related to personal limitations that we must take into account:
A life without limits is like a house without walls, we need boundaries urgently, we need them so that they have shelter, security and a space where we can contain who we are and what we need, therefore, if there is a person who does not. respecting these limits, it is necessary to specify where our borders are.
In conclusion, the issue of personal boundaries is sometimes an unresolved aspect of our lives; if we do not clarify them from within, they will not be clear to others, so, and not least, it is good to remember that they should be protected daily as the precious goods they are.
Like it or not, there will always be someone waiting for us with their ground guard to cross that border. We mustn’t allow that.