Gandhi declared that “eye for eye and the world will eventually go blind. “With non-violence at its maximum, he appealed to this phrase in search of ears willing to listen to him and understand his message. His warning about revenge is simple to understand, but difficult to enforce.
People feel the need for revenge when they have been deeply hurt, when someone we love and appreciate hurts us can leave an emotional scar that burns in intense heat, asking to be erased causing another wound in the aggressor’s heart.
- Faced with a deep emotional wound.
- We may have to get the other person to do something similar to or greater than what they did for us at first.
Revenge is an unsuccessful attempt to balance the balance because, no long as adjustments are made, you will always be unbalanced, the injured person will feel inferior to and inferior to the person who caused the damage, so you will try to hurt the other person to regain their initial equilibrium position or achieve superiority.
The first emotion that usually appears when one gets revenge is the satisfaction and the feeling that everything has regained its balance, however, this feeling quickly disappears to give way to feelings of guilt and remorse, so can the feeling of emptiness arise, as when we finish an important project, if the time and resources we have dedicated to planning and executing such revenge were numerous.
In cases where there is no repentance after vengeance, balance cannot be fully balanced, the consequences of vengeance persist, and its effects are reflected in the future, when the desire to do evil has disappeared and sadness for the damage caused appears.
It is impossible to predict the future and know who we will need on our side, perhaps the person you want to hurt today will be important again in your life, remember that feelings of revenge disappear, but the wound you cause can be profound or permanent.
When one person opens the first page of the book of Vengeance and the other continues its story, it is difficult that the story does not continue to grow until the book’s climax, the intensity of the actions of the two characters usually increases. as the chapters of history progress.
Revenge resides in Neverland, where you are still young, there are no rules, no responsibilities.
When a problem occurs between two or more people, there are several alternatives: flee, attack or solve it, in case of revenge the chosen alternative is to attack. If both people decide to use the same strategy, there will be an escalation of the conflict that will escalating until one of the parties decides that this fight is not worth it.
In the culture of honor, where the important thing is not evil but repaired honor, relationships are burned by burning people. Feeding revenge with attacks will only ignite the flame of hatred. Ending the fire is only the first step in allowing something new to emerge from its ashes.
There is no justice in revenge, no reparation in the attack
Responding to pain with more pain will not change the situation and will not make you feel better, most of the time being brave does not mean responding higher than the other, but putting yourself in the shoes of the one who hurt you and deciding that you do not want anyone to relive that pain.