What are you going to do today? The same thing I did yesterday, the same thing I’m going to do tomorrow: whatever the routine dictates, I’m going to wake up, have coffee, get dressed, go late to the subway, miss the ride, be late or just in time. , meet someone, make some papers disappear from my office and put others in place and when it comes to coffee time, I’m going to have a silly talk about the last chapter of the series that they broadcast yesterday on television.
I go out late, to get the job done a little faster and on Friday I’ll have time to go out with everyone, things are waiting for me at home at home. Of course, I’m going to watch a movie and then I go to bed imagining possibilities for a life I’m currently missing. Routine, of course.
- And raphael Giordano may be right and our life only really begins when we realize that it is unique.
- That we only realize this when we have an experience that makes us reconsider our entire existence in a second.
- A strange experience.
- Described as magical by those who have been there.
- Precisely because they have the power to put our priorities in order.
“These experiences also foster another kind of power: remembering that the future we have is not a certainty. “
Experts say that man is an animal with habits and that nothing as a habit to transform the will and the way of thinking, if it is habit that makes the monk, then it must be frequent, constant and devoted. we use every day not to get naked and walk vulnerable in life.
Habit and habit refer to routine. A command that repeats more or less frequently and gives us security. Separator doubt: this gives us well-known strategies to successfully solve the problems that often arise.
In addition, the routine saves a lot of energy. It’s like a computer program that works alone, we don’t need to think or draw, we already did and we get better over time, for example, at first we used the bus to go to work, but one day we suspended the line and checked that the subway is much faster, contrary to what you had imagined. It is the reality itself and also the success of our strategies that fills our agenda.
Can you imagine thinking every day: what am I going to have for breakfast, how am I going to work?What time will I take my break? It is doubts that in our program, improved over time, they are already solved, so why create a problem where it doesn’t really exist ?, Why spend more resources than necessary to survive if we have a routine?
“Most of the things that happen in our lives depend on what happens here in our heads. “
However, there may come a time when the routine is very rigid and there are no moments of rest, when you may feel overwhelmed, surely you already know that feeling.
What was helping us now becomes a prison where oxygen is lacking, we thought about breaking this cell, we even fantasized about it, but then we don’t really have a routine that forces us, at least at first, to make the effort to get out of our comfort zone. It is an ambiguous feeling of wanting and not wanting and when faced with this doubt, we end up doing the same.
But what are the symptoms of this type of routine acute disease ?, are there several: lack of motivation, feeling tired, some melancholy or nostalgia, mood swings, apathy, dissynchantness?And this overwhelming sense that we have everything, or almost everything, to be happy, but we’re not.
We are talking about that feeling of emptiness, indeterminate and uncomfortable why we cannot clearly identify a reason, on the other hand, all the changes that we imagine, well analyzed, end up seeming a little absurd: why are we going to try to get back on the bus to work if we already realize that it takes longer ?, why are we going to change breakfast if it goes well and gives us energy?
We also talk about the lack of new goals that replace what we have already achieved, these new goals would be just the tip of the iceberg, what they really give us is an illusion, so when new goals are missing it is difficult for this illusion to be present.
Is routine oppression a minor disease or illness of people with sufficient resources who have to deal with superficial problems, more common causes for patients to turn to therapy, that is, it is one of the main reasons for suffering.
“Giordano tells us in his book, with a little humor and also seriousness, that this prison in which the routine can be turned has so much power that it can reduce the share of humor of an entire country. “
The best way to break with routine and planning is through improvisation, doing new tasks in which we anticipate what we like, but also from time to time we do something that we do not like and that other people, for example, recommend us. us, a surprise that may be the best solution to weaken the prison catches we feel trapped with.
In this sense, there is an area of personality that brings together several models: we talk about ‘openness to experience’, because this is the ideal area to grow, at least from time to time, if we do not want the routine. to feed us day after day and become a powerful monster that eventually defeats our forces.
Finally, we can consider that routine involves enormous energy savings, but it can also become a great waste when we stop dominating it and let ourselves be dominated by it, when the risk loses all its appeal to this seemingly safe, which we have successfully repeated over and over again.