Sacrifices in love: only the righteous, who are really worth it. In a relationship, don’t continuous sacrifices make love bigger or more romantic?In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Continued renunciations erode the relationship, keep us away from ourselves until we become something we are not. So, in an emotional relationship, without sacrifices, it’s commitments that count.
There’s an old saying, “When you get trampled on, don’t forget to complain. “If you don’t, the person will have a better chance of having fun walking on you. I’d rather think so. It doesn’t hurt We could translate that idea into relationships with our partners.
- We can all sacrifice for the other person at any time; In fact.
- It’s normal and perfectly understandable.
- However.
- No one can ignore that every sacrifice comes at a cost.
- Every resignation hurts.
Any last-minute plan change is not pleasant, any change of course in our life for someone else’s benefit is not easy, sometimes it weighs and even hurts, but we still do it from the heart because we are committed to the same project.
Now, if the other person does not appreciate or is not aware of the emotional (and personal) cost that each sacrifice entails, we are not on the right track, trust will gradually erode, until sooner or later reproaches appear. resignation will hurt too much. Piece of ours, left by the way, does not return, it is lost forever.
Unlimited altruism in relationships is unhealthy. Letting go, giving up, giving up today, tomorrow and yesterday, is a sad way to annihilate self-esteem and replace love as painful as it is indigestible.
“If nothing saves us from death, may love at least save us from life” – Pablo Neruda-
It is often said that great loves, as well as great accomplishments, require sacrifices; no one can deny it. In fact, if we were to go out on the street now to ask, there would be many couples who could tell us more about a resignation made by the other person, are couples who have set a new course for their lives and who, without a hesitation, were worth it. Today they enjoy a full and happy gift.
But there are sacrifices in love that are not allowed, yet there are still many people who think that the greater the resignation of the couple, the more authentic and romantic this relationship will be, in these cases it is as if love is a kind of kindness. of the ancient atvic god we must worship. It’s an entity we have to sacrifice ourselves for.
You have to understand that not everything is valid, that not everything is allowed, when it comes to emotions we must not hurt ourselves, because the sacrifices of love should not be synonymous with self-denial, let alone build a pyre where we can cast our own values, identity, heart and self-esteem. There are limits, there are contingent barriers that need to be respected.
Psychologists Van Lange, Paul AM, Rusbult and Caryl E, Drigotas conducted an interesting study that was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology and showed that one of the variables that most predicted the couple’s commitment, stability and happiness was their willingness to sacrifice.
We all know that love involves commitment. We are also certain that sometimes we are forced to make sacrifices so that this relationship has a future, that it consolidates as we see fit, so it is a way to reach an end, where profits outweigh losses. Besides, we do this act, with security and freedom because we understand that it’s important for the growth of the couple.
Now, often, sacrificing for love can turn into debt. In fact, some people use it as a license for emotional blackmail. “After all I’ve done for you, now you can’t do this for me. “With the things I left to be with you, now you’re behaving this selfishly.
This aspect, that of debts, is a detail that we cannot set aside because of the sadness of its essence, because there are those who understand love in absolute and, of course, extreme terms: I give everything, but you owe me equals These are situations in which we are also forced to sacrifice our own identity to transform the ‘I’. In us, and so he loses all trace of dignity.
In conclusion, with regard to the sacrifices of love, only the righteous, punctual and justified, remember that when it comes to emotional matters, there is no reason to cease to be who we are, there is no reason to erase what we value or define.
We can do a lot for our loved one, we can even make one or the other sacrifice or quit. But are there red barriers that cannot be crossed, such as giving in to blackmail or becoming something we are not?