Who’s never had so much love? One of those impossible loves that exist only in our heads, idealized and precious that look like porcelain, will never come true, because even a corresponding love can be an impossible love.
These two types of love are confused, but they are not equivalent, in fact, both are subject to different characteristics that have to do with emotions and circumstances that go beyond the feeling of love itself.
- The first kind of love that causes suffering is unrequited love: that love that one person feels for another and is not reciprocal; Besides.
- Being called impossible.
- It can never be matched.
- It is the one in which the other tells you.
- : “I don’t feel the same way”.
“What many call love is choosing a woman and marrying her. I saw it, as if they could choose love, as if loving wasn’t a lightning bolt that breaks their bones and paralyzes them in the middle of the court.
J. Cortzar-
In this case, only the person we are in love with can make us feel the two emotional extremes: the happiness of love and, at the same time, the sadness of not being loved.
These loves leave us with a constant feeling of discomfort and sadness, for we cannot avoid how we feel about each other, but we cannot express it as we would like, in this sense, bitterness increases when we imagine what it would be like if this love was reciprocal.
Did writer García Márquez mention this kind of love in his novel: Love in Times of Cholera?It is a love that we feel and make us suffer, because it is reciprocal, but it does not ask to be realized by external circumstances.
In other words, impossible love is a perfect love that may not be performed for several reasons: incompatibilities, family pressures, friendships that we do not want to lose, fear of emotional dependence, etc. In other words, it’s a tragic love, like Romeo and Juliet’s.
“It was inevitable: the smell of bitter almonds always reminded him of the fate of impossible loves.
-Gabriel García Márquez-
They say this love is the worst of all, because those who love each other will be frustrated: “We love each other and we cannot be together. “They both love each other for what they are, they know they complement each other and understand each other perfectly, but they can’t find a way to overcome obstacles.
Impossible loves are characterized by helplessness, which becomes suffering for both sides. They know that “for me”, “for you”, “for us”, “for circumstances”, they cannot be together. Their paths have crossed, and only with great effort can they realize this love.
We have already seen that unrequited love can be very bitter, but what about loves that do not surpass our imagination?We are talking about platonic love, which we have included here to differentiate it from the two types already described above.
Unlike impossible or unshared loves, they are not completely real, they are not true loves, they are alone in our imagination.
“Who has the ability to see that beauty never ages?”
-Kafka-
Contrary to what is often believed, platonic love is associated with beauty and not unrequited love; in fact, for Plato love is associated with the impulse that leads us to know the essence of beauty, this beauty can be found in the other, but not in the impulse that leads us to it.