When did someone say, “Don’t cry, when all you wanted to do was cry?How many times have you pretended to be okay while you were suffering inside?When did they tell you not to be sad when sadness dominated you?”What about the sadness that displeases those who aren’t?Is it so bad to be sad?
From a theoretical point of view, sadness is a basic emotion that is neither good nor bad, in practice being sad is not bad, on the contrary, it is very healthy because it expresses a feeling that would otherwise be blocked. pain is released, because if it is not released, it deepens and makes us suffer much more.
- “I will welcome happiness because it fills my heart.
- But I will also endure sadness because it reveals my soul.
- -Og Mandino-.
Avoiding sadness won’t make the cause of your pain go away, no matter what someone tells you, don’t be sad. and you try to show your happiest face. Of course, optimism and good humor help deal with a painful situation, but forcing good humor or hiding pain is not the solution.
In reality, sadness is only bad when it becomes a habit, when you calm down and use it to avoid facing your problems, but everything in life has its moment and we can go through difficult times: denying sadness doesn’t help release pain.
Respecting one’s own sadness and that of others is the only way to leave it without pressure and without judgment, feelings are who they are and no one has the right to tell you how you should feel or express your pain.
In fact, not being able to manage sadness naturally forces many people to express their pain in a very dangerous way, in these cases we realize how important emotional intelligence is, the kind of dialogue and affection we have with ourselves.
“Laugh, and the world will laugh with you; cry and the world will turn its back on you and let you cry alone?. – Charlie Chaplin-
The problem is, we don’t like to see people sad, why?Are we sad and don’t want to feel that way?Does it remind us that life is not a bed of roses?It doesn’t matter why, but we feel uncomfortable with the sadness of others.
Also, we generally feel uncomfortable showing that we are sad in public, as if it were going to hurt others or show our fragility. Sadness is not well accepted and people believe that we must overcome adversity and move on. But one thing doesn’t eliminate the other. You can be brave, move on and at the same time vent your pain.
“Tears heal the pain. -Ramon Gumez of the Serna-
Everyone has felt sad at some point in their lives and from experience we know that it is easier to overcome pain when we let it flow Cry if you feel the need or seek loneliness if it relieves you the more we try to dissolve the pain, the harder it becomes to overcome.
When you let sadness flow, your defense mechanisms begin to work effectively, some people are able to joke, laugh and be optimistic, while crying and sad, but it depends on each other’s temperament.
There are people who need a moment of crying and loneliness to free themselves from their sadness, and then they take responsibility and begin to think more rationally; others need more time or the company of their loved ones; in fact, sadness can be one of the emotions that provoke the most different behaviors. Each person reacts differently.
In any case, it is important to respect the way everyone tries to overcome their difficult times, denial can be useful in cushioning the pain that has happened suddenly and is taking over our lives.