The sapiosexuality came to stay. Many online dating agencies and pages already include this term as an additional gender identity.
The New York Times also revealed in 2014 that a large part of the population is more excited about an interesting conversation than a sculptural body Maybe something will change in the language of our attraction?
- Sapiosexuality is defined as the fascination with the intelligence of others.
- In which an interesting dialogue constitutes a sexual game between two minds and where speech emerges as a powerful weapon of seduction.
In reality, intellectuality as a form of eroticism is not a new phenomenon, it has always existed and it was Plato himself who spoke of it in 380 a. C.
Currently, we are witnessing not only its popularity, but several attempts at scientific recognition of this term that seems to define a good number of people.
Meeting someone with the most varied knowledge, capable of illuminating our minds and awakening this mixture of curiosity, mystery and admiration, creates a game that transcends the skin.
“Brains, like hearts, go where they are valued. “Robert McNamara?
There is a type of criticism that appears most often around the term “sapiosexuality”. Many see this concept as a proud form of discrimination and elitism.
Thus, the attraction created between high-intelligence people supposedly leaves out those who have a medium or low IQ and, of course, people with disabilities.
However, sapiosexuals say that there is no arrogance in this form of attraction, besides, this kind of sexuality does not wake up simply because it is with someone very intelligent.
In reality, sapiosexuality seeks to find someone with whom dialogue becomes a form of intimacy, of reflection, to connect emotionally through words, knowledge and emotion.
The New York Times published in 2017 an interesting article that collected the testimonies of several sapiosexuals, at a time when many relationships are initiated through online networks and contacts, many are frustrated and upset by the type of interaction that occurs in these virtual scenarios.
The exchange of worldly photos and conversations, the exaltation of the value of physical appearance is, in many cases, a disappointment. Now, when they manage to find someone capable of having a brilliant conversation, they deepen aspects in an intelligent, empathetic and interesting way. At the same time, attraction and excitement are activated.
So can a person be really sexually attracted to someone simply through a conversation?
In a study conducted at the University of Western Australia, researchers concluded that about 8% of young people between the age of 18 and 35 are sapiosexual, while dating pages like OkCupid point out that sapiosexuality is becoming more common among people. between 30 and 45 years old.
In addition, Gilles Gignac, author of this book, concluded that intelligence is, for some people, a factor of sexual attraction, the intelligent man or woman generates sexual arousal because, in a way, it takes us away from conventions and everyday superficiality.
We also attribute qualities such as respect, good decision-making, understanding, and a sense of protection toward others.
Many see the subject of sapiosexuality with some skepticism; in a way, these new lexical paradigms are popping up more and more frequently.
Terms such as dry (love of rain) or bibliophiles (love of books) are recent labels that give name to realities that have always existed, however, when we talk about sapiosexuality, we are not talking about a hobby or a type of sexual orientation. .
Subject matter experts, such as Dr. Debby Herbenick, a sex health educator and public health professor at Indiana University, point out that we face a type of identity.
There are many heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals who identify and define themselves as sapiosexual, intelligence seduces them and they do not see physical appearance as a relevant factor when it comes to being sexually attracted to someone.
It is true that some people think that this is not the case, no one will look away from an attractive woman or man, however, the sapiosexuals are not blind to beauty and do not deny it.
The only peculiarity is that it does not arouse much particular desire or fascination, conversation, dialogue and word are what flows and dazzles, imprisons and deepens the most diverse topics with success and elegance, which really seduces and falls in love.
Caressing the brain instead of the skin is, for many, the most interesting form of sexuality.