People face a multitude of contradictions. It is difficult for them to be uniquely and exclusively linked to our identity, even if we isolate ourselves or try to stay in a remote place on Earth, to forget everything and everyone, we are already part of everything we have lived and, with that, of all.
In a single day, we can experience a real roller coaster of emotions in our relationships with others, it may even seem ridiculous, absurd and incoherent or incredibly stimulating, something that has both cognitive and emotional implications.
- Considering what was said before.
- Let’s look at a famous phrase that Sigmund Freud once said: “Neurosis is the inability to resist ambiguity.
- “It follows from this observation that reality becomes difficult with many contradictory elements.
- But it depends only on our psychological health to accept and tolerate them.
- Let’s see how we deal with it.
One day you get up and start talking to an ex-partner, you’re happy to be able to talk to him again, everything seems to go perfectly, at least that’s what it looks like, but suddenly an unexpected opinion emerges on the refugee issue.
You want to get away from this unfortunate comment and the way you see it right away, but at the same time, you still want to see your colleague, yet this comment has bothered you and all you do is broach the subject.
On the other hand, you met a boy. It looks more like you ideologically than anyone else, you share the same values, but in reality this relationship is far from going well, silences always appear, the eyes generate a strange discomfort and times become very long.
The relationship seemed much more intellectual and virtually interesting. The values raised? Apparently, they don’t realize the lack of good manners. Once exciting firmness and conviction now give way to sudden desingnanto. You’ve been a victim of high expectations.
We are immersed in a constant contradiction between what we think of others, what we hope will happen and what ultimately happens to people. We continually create expectations that are reversed one after the other, with no space not to collapse together.
Does neurosis seem to be an unrecoverable solution in the face of such ambiguity?What if you don’t think about it when nothing suits you? The next question is, why should things fit in?How flexible should we be in our starting positions relative to others can lead to happiness?Is moral relativity the beginning of a lack of principle or is it the first step in making everything more enjoyable?
Questions and more questions to translate mental complexity into simpler behavior. Replace our cognitive frustration with real civic engagement, social activism or citizen cooperation. You can’t fix the world, but sometimes helping someone who has problems can help the world a little bit.
The fact that we are not prepared to accept adversity comes from an education based on fear, censorship and the imposition of constant rules to avoid social chaos Maximize educational resources to avoid disasters, not to create paradises where it is normal to live in peace and where there is the possibility of refuge if it is true that a disaster has occurred.
That is why we avoid and censor what we don’t like about others. So we seem to protect ourselves and define ourselves, but in reality we only manage to be more isolated, depressed and frustrated. We end up being bitter people and we end up making other people’s lives bitter too. Sometimes our great principles translate into everyday behavior that leaves a lot to be desired.
We want a complete and perfect kit from a person, but we don’t really realize that when we have it it doesn’t bring much benefit. Leaving a space for something that doesn’t fit is fun, rewarding and the essence of this world is the world: adversity, in the broadest sense of the word.
Accepting adversity does not mean to stop being who we are and to move towards what we want, to get out of neurosis you need to think about a series of questions:
As a final reflection, one wonders whether it is appropriate to make an approximate scale on which we can include what we do not tolerate in any way and also what we have a small space of doubt. If someone who mistreats an animal doesn’t make it fit into the same category as someone who has already spoken ill of you, then it’s better to assume that there’s a difference between the unbearable and the uncomfortable. In the face of the former, intransigence can help us, in front of the second, no.