How many times in your life have you had to say goodbye?In fact, no matter how many times you’ve done this, the key is to know that throughout your life cycle you’ll have to break more than one bond, even if it represents pain.
To say goodbye is to grow up, to allow yourself to meet yourself because, in certain circumstances, something or someone drove you away from these essences, which are happiness and balance with one’s being.
- I say good-bye because I know you don’t need me anymore.
- Because I’m not your property.
- Because your gaps fill me with needs and because even if we don’t say it out loud we’ve been saying goodbye for a while.
- Long time.
In fact, we could say that the farewell itself does not hurt as much as retaining the desire to return, because this is where not only our own strength resides, but also our dignity.
Never allow yourself to be fragile and pursue those who do not need you or who already know where you are, in doing so, you will cause deep damage to yourself, your self-esteem and, in turn, you will offer power to a person who holds the key to the lock of your happiness in your hand.
You are the one who needs this key, you are the one who has to take the reins of your life knowing at all times who is worth investing time, dreams and hopes. Saying goodbye is an act of bravery and the best expression of oneself. Love.
It would be great if things were easier, if there was a magical position for heartbreak, to close the doors of the heart to those who no longer love us, and practice the art of oblivion as one who throws a stone into the river and watches it disappear into the depths.
Saying goodbye requires courage, it is an act of personal will for a vital need, it is to close a circle where you decide not to allow yourself to suffer, because those who give only absences do not deserve your presence.
There is no immaculate forgetfulness that leaves no marks or scars, because saying goodbye sometimes means having to heal many spaces, many wounds and pains of the soul that time does not always relieve with the simple passage of the calendar leaves. Time doesn’t heal if we do. We don’t do our part, so it’s worth considering these aspects.
You have to assume that saying goodbye, letting go, goes through a grieving process, many people, in order not to understand it that way, decide to stick to the day to day without having handled thoughts and emotions.
Saying goodbye without grudges, hatred or contempt is not always easy, as we realize that they no longer need us, that they have ceased to love us, or that they offer us poisonous or painful love, what we feel is helplessness and anger.
Leave everything, let go of those who don’t need you and any negative emotion that involves being anchored to those who have hurt you in some way, all this will allow you to move forward a little more. If you accumulate all the stones along the way, you will finally not be able to follow your lifestyle. Get rid.
When we maintain a dysfunctional relationship, in which suffering, disappointment and where, far from growing up, personal balance is broken, what we are really doing is moving away from ourselves.
Saying goodbye means making a complicated round trip, you have to heal the wounds, take care of yourself and return to your essence, recover not only the person you were before, but also create who you want to be now.
I want to be that person who can say goodbye and let go of new things to come, better things. I want to be who I was, and although I know that I have already lost some of my innocence and this destiny related to whom I have left behind, I know that I am the author of my future, I know that I will walk with renewed hopes, that I will not be a victim, but someone that I can learn from what I’ve been through and become who I want to be.
Images courtesy of Pascal Campion and Amanda Cass.