Many of us get involved in problems or situations that we don’t really want to pursue, we’ve already thought about it, it’s at the tip of the tongue and when it comes time to respond it seems impossible to say NO, follow these tips and learn to avoid what you don’t want to do.
Unfortunately in our culture we do not learn to ask or prioritize what we want, part of what we were taught was to have a passive attitude that leads us to accept almost everything they ask or suggest, whether we agree or not. that if we refuse to do something, we will be seen as ill-educated or evil people, and it certainly can be, because it is a topic of cultural ideology.
- This leads us to accept many situations to feel loved and accepted.
- The problem is that we are so afraid of being repressed that we do not allow ourselves to give too many negatives.
- Even if they are justified.
1. Find your limits. The first thing you need to understand is your needs, your desires and your limits, so you’ll know what you’re willing to accept and identify when to say NO.
2. Respect your time before answering. Don’t be in a hurry to give your answers, at first you may feel compelled to accept and, if you think better about the situation, you realize that you can deny it without any problem. Plus, giving you time, you can find an educated way to refuse without feeling guilty.
3. Do you practice saying “NO? When you can. “Because we are afraid to refuse, we can generally avoid such situations. Don’t do that. As long as you have the opportunity and don’t really want to do what you’re asked to do, just refuse. With time and practice, you will realize that these negative aspects will not destroy your world or your interpersonal relationships.
4. Find alternatives. One option that will help you not accept what you don’t want is to give an alternative you like, for example, if a friend invites you to a party where you know you’re going to feel uncomfortable, you can refuse and suggest that you go out for coffee another day, so friendship won’t be affected and you’ll avoid the awkward situation.
5. Reward yourself. Learn to reward yourself when you have finally learned to say?No, without feeling guilty. Every little progress is important and valuable to you, so you should learn to give it the real value it deserves.
6. Stay strong. Isn’t it enough to learn to say ‘NO’ if you then agree to do what you didn’t want to do, it is very important that you learn to stand firm and not be manipulated by negative comments or attitudes?
Sometimes we can feel uncomfortable refusing, but learning to say?Can’t you free us. It may not seem like it, but we’re often busy with things that aren’t really ours and shouldn’t make us lose sleep.