The scars show us that the past was real, it is not easy to accept them, but they are part of us and as such, they must be assumed, the way we look at these scars allows us to see life in a pleasant way, or on the contrary drag small traumas.
Putting on a scale the good and bad experiences allows us to understand that what we are today is the result of both negative and positive facts, our personality is determined by loss, suffering, mistakes and also by the affection we give and receive.
- For example.
- There is no better learning than children receive from their parents; just a touch.
- A touch.
- Already stimulates the neurons of the baby’s brain.
- Favoring its development and giving it security.
- Everything in life learns; accept your experiences with peace of mind.
It doesn’t matter how old we are. We have all experienced, to a greater or lesser degree, a psychological suffering that has left us deep scars, it is interesting to understand what the impact has been on our lives, are we more cautious and more frightened?Are we getting stronger to face life with courage and determination?Suffering matures us and also makes us see where we have made mistakes and what we need to change. Each person faces experiences in a certain way. The key is to assume its reality and reorient life, take, accept and move on.
Any positive memory can serve as a way forward. Anchoring in our day to day. Memories of a happy moment in our lives leave a pleasant impression, a sense of tranquility, where we can return whenever we need security and confidence to face the present. They are like shelters to take refuge to find the necessary strength and face our reality, ourselves and remind ourselves that we are able to face obstacles. “It was all worth it. “
Sometimes psychologists use a simple exercise to evaluate a person’s life cycle, this exercise graphically shows that in our lives we have positive and negative experiences that have been overcome or not, highlights moments of change, important experiences, our personal history and our future projects. . It’s very simple to do.
Draw a very long line on a sheet of paper or cardboard, mark the dates you consider most important, from birth to the present day (studies, jobs, illnesses, personal and family changes), think about your past and write down at every moment how you felt at that time, what you thought and how this event changed your life. Once this phase is complete, increase this line and think about the future. Set your goals and goals and describe your plans to “get there. “
The lifeline reflects our entire existence: everything we are already living and what we want for our future.