Many women seek love in their lives, but they ignore the fact that love meets when we first love each other. Seeking love involves finding ourselves first. Much of the book?Hunger for love? (Fome de Amor), by Ana Moreno (Obelisk, 2016), revolves around this topic, and it is about this and other related ideas that we will then talk about.
I ask you, from woman to woman: why do you need a partner?, to complete a missing part, to complete an inner void, why are you afraid of being alone?, why do you just feel helpless?If you haven’t figured it out yet, I’ll tell you this: having a partner won’t solve any of these problems, it’ll only make them worse.
- Creating such a relationship.
- Based on codependency.
- Only leads to sentimental failure.
- Only with a conscious relationship is it possible to have a healthy romantic life.
Women need to feel loved, but true love is born in ourselves. A woman who loves herself radiates love and receives love. He thinks you can’t attract something you don’t have in your life.
If you don’t feel like it’s love, you’ll think you need someone else to complete it, but in this need to complement yourself, you’ll try to own the other one, because you feel like without it you’re nothing. It’s a selfish way of doing things. And love and selfishness are not compatible concepts.
Another even more important thing is to realize that just as you can’t attract love if you don’t have love, what you’ll attract is the same thing you’ll have to offer. If you try to look at what you are not, you will find a person who is not authentic, if you do not show true love and respect for yourself, you will find someone who not only does not love or respect, but will not love and respect it.
Whether you haven’t found a partner yet or aren’t happy with the relationship you have, it’s never too late to get together, to start cultivating love from the inside, rather than chasing it. For Ana Moreno, it’s as simple as acting with love, honesty and appreciation, sharing it with others, giving love to yourself and others.
The best part of this way of understanding love is that you don’t need anyone to feel full, you don’t depend on the search for love, how others see it, or how they react to your needs or addictions. performing an important exercise in self-esteem, self-improvement and self-esteem, because you can only love yourself when you know who you are.
You are enough, you do not need anyone to complete it, your partner can help you to be better than you, get the best out of you, together you can implement a common life project, you can grow up together, but if you depend on your partner and / or your partner depends on you, you are doomed to train each other.
Knowing yourself enough to create love in your life will prevent you from striving in situations as useless as living trying to please others or acting on the desires and aspirations of others. If your priority is to make the other happy, you will eventually feel even more empty and incomplete.