Self-esteem is not self-centeredness, pride, superiority or pride, self-esteem means loving oneself, looking in the physical and psychological mirror to reflect a healthy and exposed image, a protected image with solid foundations.
There are people who show their self-image with arrogance, who show their strengths and struggle not to reveal points of vulnerability, who are perfect and pretend not to make mistakes or mistakes.
- These people lack self-critical thoughts and show some fear for themselves.
- Hiding their true image behind a mask that pretends to be perfect.
- Which is impossible.
The ego is the basis of our personal identity and, therefore, of our self-esteem and self-centeredness, we could simply differentiate these two notions in this way: self-esteem is a healthy and tolerant will, egocentrism is an empty, thoughtless, excessive and intolerant will.
There is a story that illustrates very well how self-esteem is expressed and how not, let’s see below:
I was walking with my father when he stopped at a corner and, after a little silence, asked me:
? Besides birdsong, do you hear anything else?I heard my ears and, a few seconds later, I said, “I hear the sound of a car. “Exactly, said my father. It’s an empty cart.
How do you know it’s an empty basket, if we don’t see it yet?I asked my father.
? It is very easy to know when a cart is empty by noise, the more empty is the cart, the more noise does it ?, he answered.
I have become an adult and even today when I see a person talking too much, interrupting the conversation of others, being inappropriate or violent, showing what he has, being arrogant and derogatory, I feel like I hear my father’s voice say:
“The more empty the car is, the more noise it makes
Humility is about silencing our virtues and allowing others to discover them, and remember, there are people so poor that they only have money, no one is more empty than the one who is full of themselves.
Generally, as seen in this text, arrogance, arrogance and egocentrism make a lot of noise, not a healthy image of oneself (self-esteem).
The line between ego and self-esteem is very thin, we are neither better nor worse, we are simply different, understanding diversity is undoubtedly the basis or pillar of healthy self-esteem that fosters positive attitudes towards oneself and others.
Healthy self-esteem has the advantage that when we achieve something, we are not proud enough to be omnipotent, so that we do not fall into the clutches of self-centeredness or excessive and negative love for our own ego.
A person who loves you healthily doesn’t over-exalt your personality, doesn’t make your feelings, thoughts, and opinions the center of attention for you or others. While self-esteem promotes equal thoughts, feelings and behaviors, self-esteem focus is superior in importance and reason.
That is, in a way, when we behave arrogantly or self-centeredly, what we intend to do is give more value to what we think or believe, thus minimizing what others think or feel.
In short, we should not confuse self-centeredness with self-confidence; When the first appears, the person tends to feel better in all aspects, but safety itself helps us act knowing our abilities and limitations.
Moreover, when you love yourself, it is much easier to love others, however, sometimes it is difficult not to get carried away by excess ego and to make the mistake of being arrogant in wanting to affirm our opinions or feelings.
The ideal is then to analyze and take precautions, because the line separating the two lands is very diffuse, and making the mistake of wanting to overlay our desires with those of others is extremely easy.