Will you die to please others without feeling truly valued?If this is a constant in your life, it may be time to re-evaluate you internally, after all, self-love is essential for us to love others.
Helping others without expecting anything in return is a wonderful gesture that highlights your great heart and your ability to serve others, but remember that you must first love yourself in order to do it with others from the bottom of your heart. , Without giving up your own dreams.
- Your nature is that of an exceptional human being.
- We have no doubts.
- But have you stopped to think if you are happy?Ask yourself if you’re expecting someone who’s grateful enough to value you and give you back everything you’ve given un measured.
- Because that long-awaited person is you! The truth is that no one knows better what their desires.
- Feelings or needs are.
Let’s do this exercise: with no one around, stop in front of a mirror and watch yourself in detail. Only you and no one else will be able to judge the projected image forward. As you do so, write down all the thoughts that come your way. Mind.
After 15 minutes or more (take the extra time you want), read what you wrote. Now make a list separating what you consider negative from positive perceptions.
If the balance is more in favor of the negative, it is an indication that you need to pay more attention to yourself, little by little you will be able to work on each of these unfavorable aspects that you have marked yourself to get better results However, you will have already made this wonderful journey of self-discoveration, you will have started to be frank with yourself and know what perception of yourself you have of yourself.
Abraham Maslow, one of the leading representatives of humanist psychology, developed a theory related to “self-realization. “
This author represented his idea in a pyramid where he explains that, to achieve maximum internal satisfaction, we must first cover a series of needs that range from physiological (food, breathing and rest) to those that imply wanting to become. creative, spontaneous, with a strong moral in our life.
Self-esteem is a series of perceptions, thoughts and feelings that define a person’s behavior, is the way we see ourselves, and therefore affects the way we interpret the world.
According to American psychologist Carl Rogers, “the root of many people’s problems is that they are despised and considered useless and un kind. “In these cases, acceptance is an important step in finding solutions.
As of today, any distorted appreciation you have of yourself can change. He will continue to approach others, albeit increasingly through a deep understanding of who he is and how he feels.
This will be the first step in advancing your internal investigation and will allow you, above all, to keep those desires that you must dare to realize, to bring back those goals that you once left stored in that old drawer?boldness?
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