Sensitivity in the way we behave, understand, and communicate is not a sign of weakness, but of strength, this statement is contrary to what seem to be the pillars of many people’s thinking, which understand that feelings make us vulnerable.
Emotions, feelings and sensations have been punished throughout our history, so it is not strange for society to think that they make us less effective, strong and able to make decisions and walk in life.
- Fortunately.
- That has begun to change and we attach more importance to our emotional part.
- As well as to the ability to be sensitive in communicating and relating to the people around us.
Sensitive communication requires openness. What happens is that by being frank or saying what we think we can hurt people, so we need to know that in addition to being honest, we must at the same time express ourselves in a way that does not hurt anyone.
What is the secret of sensitive communication?Express a feeling, not a judgment. Judging others involves destroying any kind of open communicative sensibility. In other words, instead of telling someone “You’re a liar!” we have to wonder what that means before we drop that value judgment. .
So, instead of sentencing, we should talk about the feelings that this person’s behavior provokes us, that is, “Do I irritate you doing this?” Always be very specific and focus on what makes us feel the situation generated.
Expressions expressing judgments lack sensitivity and their only function is to protect the “I”.
Many people communicate through judgments, for fear of being sensitive, because they understand that, through feelings, they are vulnerable, however, as we reported, nothing could be further from reality ?, although judgments and opinions are only assumptions, there is nothing to speculate about feelings. .
As we prioritize sensitivity in our closest relationships, will we?Increased vulnerability. We assume that no one will take advantage of this and we use our feelings to promote effective communication.
However, in relationships, less close or solid?we tend to show an attitude of judgment and coldness, as if it were a triumph, rather than a position of vulnerability. We feel that, in this way, we look good and that the reason is demonstrated by insensitivity, being more objective.
As a result, we do not communicate clearly and frankly, and we fall into the temptation of the easy and fast, fearing that they will discover that part of us that we believe to be inferior; but this, on the other hand, makes us wise in heart.
Being sensitive and making others understand that we are not stones means expressing ourselves with security, openness, tranquility, enthusiasm and inclination to learn, understand and mature.
It’s hard to talk about sensitivity, but it’s worth a try, it ends up being very beneficial to mature into a competitive society and unlearn that what makes us strong is perceived as vulnerability.
As we already know, criticizing, ridiculing or ignoring what bothers us only leads to a level of tension that generates conflicts that are difficult to resolve, so this lesson that society gives us, if not sensitive, can only be useful in certain circumstances. , but not in most cases.
Attacking, rather than revealing feelings and sensations, is a mistake that can be very costly. Knowing this, it is important to know that sensitivity is a gift that deserves to be valued, because living?From the heart, is that what makes us special and authentic.