What we are hearing is that we live in a time when sexual freedom has been achieved and taboos about sexuality are being destroyed, and I’m just saying, you hear?Because when it comes to truth, that’s not exactly how it works, at least. not for many people who still can’t enjoy intimacy. In some cases, this is due to sexual anxiety.
When we talk about sexual anxiety, we’re talking about a set of very unpleasant emotions and feelings that have one thing in common: sex. This includes fear, tension, rejection and eventually dysfunction. The reasons may be the most diverse, but the effects are always very difficult to manage.
“Eroticism is one of the foundations of self-knownness, as indispensable as poetry. -Anas Nin-
Sex enriches life. It offers several very important emotional and physical benefits, ranging from strengthening the circulatory and immune system to combating stress and daily tension, it was also said to be a natural painkiller and had wonderful potential to boost our self-esteem.
However, when we suffer from sexual anxiety, we get virtually none of these sexual benefits, once negative dynamics are installed, any situation of intimacy can already cause nervousness and anxiety, there is no pleasure, only fear, there is nothing positive, only a feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction.
Sexual anxiety can come from different sources. In some cases, it can arise from a traumatic experience of abuse. Sexual abuse is more common than we think, partly because many victims are silent or silenced. In addition, we are talking about a taboo issue that has historically been overlooked, as no one was willing to report such cases in the past.
When the experience occurs very early in a person’s life, it most commonly has few emotional resources to manage their emotions, so the experience may end up leaving an even deeper mark than this type of situation leaves later. in life?that is no longer a small brand, and another of its side effects is that in the future its consequences will be even more difficult to mitigate.
Sometimes the situation isn’t that extreme. Sometimes sexual anxiety comes from other sources, but in almost all of the common element is repression, here are some cases:
There are still other factors that may be related to the problem, such as depression, low self-esteem, and difficulty accepting one’s body; it is also common for anxiety to arise when there are conflicts to be resolved in the relationship, or if there is no confidence or if it has been broken.
In many cases, sexual anxiety ends up leading the person to develop sexual dysfunction: decreased desire, difficulty feeling pleasure, problems with premature ejaculation or pain during intercourse. All of this impoverishes the sex life and gradually destroys the relationship if there is no proper intervention.
The main steps that can be taken when we suffer from this type of anxiety are:
Finally, we must emphasize that sexual anxiety has different levels, some seek professional help to find improvement, while in others, changing sexual circumstances can end the problem, one way or another, if we find ourselves in a situation where we cannot find a solution. , it is always better to look for a specialist. First, a doctor, to rule out any organic problems or assume that the difficulties suffered are a side effect of something, like a drug.
If all these assumptions are eliminated, it is best to seek the help of a psychologist, if the problem behind dysfunction is anxiety, the professional will develop an intervention plan tailored to our needs that will certainly help us get out of the difficulty.