Sexuality is one of the most important aspects of our life, throughout history sex has been suppressed, punished, liberated, criticized and even manipulated, today we are faced with a hypersexualized and hypocritical society in its dissemination: we are constantly surrounded by contained sexual intercourse, but statistics show that dissatisfaction is the sad protagonist.
“There are as many types of sexuality as there are people in the world, is the same with sensitivities?-Kevin Johansen-
- Sexual performance is presented as the determining variable that will make us happier.
- Every day there are more social networks and applications to meet people.
- It has never been easier to accumulate sexual encounters.
- Tell in detail our latest exploits and reject what I do not like at first glance.
Why, despite so many possibilities, are we not satisfied?The superficiality and ease with which the sexual and loving world is presented to us is part of the problem, relationships are increasingly based on two aspects: coldness and lack of limits. , we have become automatons experimenting with “sex versus sex”, and all this pushes us to seek a change in sexual roles and identities as a desperate attempt to bring order into this chaotic void.
“It’s not about giving up sex, I’m far from appealing to puritanism, it’s about transforming our relationship with him. Are we going to try to go beyond being a biological act that responds to unsimided impulses?- Frida Kahlo-
The current generation of young people is less sexually active than the generation of any other age, how can this paradox occur?There was a loss of attraction and sexual interest due to excessive and continuous exposure to sexual intercourse. We are saturated, all this has led to the destruction of the quality of sexual intercourse, to the natural inability to love and relate to others.
There is an emotional scourge, a need for constant control and a fear of true pleasurable excitement. Women talk about the inability to feel sexual desire, and 1 in 3 women have anorgasmia. Men face problems of sexual power and the number of cases. increases premature ejaculation.
“Loveless sex only temporarily soothes the abyss between two human beings. “- Erich Fromm-
What’s the reason for all this? An authoritarian and commercial ideology. Ideologies are rooted in people, we are a subject of masses to the system. We turn the other into a simple commodity, an additional number, an interchangeable product. In the past, selling was the worst thing that could happen. Nowadays the worst thing is to sell cheap, that is, the unforgivable thing is not to be part of the market of the supply and demand of sex, who does not enter the game to seek the best offer is punished.
We confuse value with price, as we are our principles and values and label people based on criteria such as their appearance or purchasing power, we have to label ourselves to feel safe, we do not tolerate uncertainty and frustration, so we prefer to classify others based on frivolous adjectives to simplify and reduce the range of possibilities.
We try to satisfy our whims under the shield of the ‘Carpe Diem‘ and avoid anxiety looking for pleasure, under this pretext we have reduced the process of choice to two options: like it or not, and with a simple touch of my fingers on the screen, we move on to the next product.
The impression we choose when we are part of the herd, the lack of critical awareness and responsibility towards ourselves and others, leads us directly to a loss of personality. We put social mimicry in our own freedom to be part of the circus. We have to be with someone and we don’t care what the price is.
We disappear into the crowd, we choose to be one more so as not to feel alone, together we organize a costume party where no one shows their true feelings, and this conformity leads us to accept relationships that do not satisfy us and even to give in and do things that we don’t really like or that we are not sure what we want to do.
“The reward of conformism is that everyone loves you less. “- Rita Mae Marron-
We’re afraid of freedom. Individual freedom means having the ability to free ourselves and choose whether we want to stay away from each other and avoid relying on it, that is, individual freedom takes us out of conformism and forces us to take responsibility for our choices, forces us to choose accordingly. with our own judgment and get to know each other better.
Not holding the other accountable is an act of courage, identifying our mistakes and distortions helps us become aware of our own actions and decisions, lack of self-understanding, and the fear of hearing what sounds in us only mask reality and we are complicit in drowned suffering on a social level. Let’s start by ordering in our own chaos.
We live in the century of individualism, how can we handle this?The first step is to connect with your essence, your true identity, facing our lights and shadows will facilitate our relationships with others in a more authentic way and help us live a healthy life. and satisfactory sexuality.
Sexuality allows us to communicate our most intimate emotions and passions, it is a source of pleasure and can be expressed in many ways, it is influenced by the interaction of different factors: biological, psychological, social and ethical, and by its complexity, we can show our way of being more authentic.
One of the characteristics of sexuality is its ability to establish emotional bonds, that is, to develop and establish meaningful relationships with other people, perhaps if we set aside superficial relationships, prejudices and labels, we can get to know the other person in an authentic way. and authentic form; Build more natural and satisfying relationships that allow us to live and enjoy our sexuality in a more pleasant way.